All About The Joy
Humor Meets Heart Discussing TV Shows, Sexuality and Life's Significant Moments in Love
Ever found yourself split between a hearty laugh and a moment of reflection? That's exactly where we land in our latest conversation, where the warmth of friendship intertwines with the celebration of life's milestones. Rick beams with pride over his son's doctoral achievement, and it sets the tone for an exchange filled with both nostalgia and contemporary musings – from the virtues of binge-watching to the cultural resonance of hair. We're not just talking about shows like "9-1-1" or the animated charm of X-Men '97; we're delving into the personal choices that define us too!
Then we wade into the deeper end of the pool. Our candid chatter turns to a rich conversation of on-screen romances, dissecting the intricate dance of societal norms, personal biases, and evolving perceptions of relationships. Navigating through these waters, we tackle the challenging topics of historical oppression, sexuality, and acceptance, never losing grip of the humor and personal anecdotes that keep our spirits on point.
And before we sign off, a peek into the future is in order – a vision for the podcast that includes a three-year plan brimming with aspirations of monetization and a toast to the dedicated souls who've made it all possible. So, tune in, grab that drink, and settle in for a conversation that's sure to leave you feeling like part of the family.
Thank you for stopping by. Please visit our website: All About The Joy and add, like and share. We'd appreciate that greatly. Also, if you want to find us anywhere on social media, please check out the link in bio page.
Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481
Editing by Team A-J
Host, Carmen Lezeth
DISCLAIMER: As always, please do your own research and understand that the opinions in this podcast and livestream are meant for entertainment purposes only. States and other areas may have different rules and regulations governing certain aspects discussed in this podcast. Nothing in our podcast or livestream is meant to be medical or legal advice. Please use common sense, and when in doubt, ask a professional for advice, assistance, help and guidance.
Ever found yourself split between a hearty laugh and a moment of reflection? That's exactly where we land in our latest conversation, where the warmth of friendship intertwines with the celebration of life's milestones. Rick beams with pride over his son's doctoral achievement, and it sets the tone for an exchange filled with both nostalgia and contemporary musings – from the virtues of binge-watching to the cultural resonance of hair. We're not just talking about shows like "9-1-1" or the animated charm of X-Men '97; we're delving into the personal choices that define us too!
Then we wade into the deeper end of the pool. Our candid chatter turns to a rich conversation of on-screen romances, dissecting the intricate dance of societal norms, personal biases, and evolving perceptions of relationships. Navigating through these waters, we tackle the challenging topics of historical oppression, sexuality, and acceptance, never losing grip of the humor and personal anecdotes that keep our spirits on point.
And before we sign off, a peek into the future is in order – a vision for the podcast that includes a three-year plan brimming with aspirations of monetization and a toast to the dedicated souls who've made it all possible. So, tune in, grab that drink, and settle in for a conversation that's sure to leave you feeling like part of the family.
Thank you for stopping by. Please visit our website: All About The Joy and add, like and share. We'd appreciate that greatly. Also, if you want to find us anywhere on social media, please check out the link in bio page.
Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481
Editing by Team A-J
Host, Carmen Lezeth
DISCLAIMER: As always, please do your own research and understand that the opinions in this podcast and livestream are meant for entertainment purposes only. States and other areas may have different rules and regulations governing certain aspects discussed in this podcast. Nothing in our podcast or livestream is meant to be medical or legal advice. Please use common sense, and when in doubt, ask a professional for advice, assistance, help and guidance.
I don't know where I won't put it on my calendar while we're live.
Carmen Lezeth:No, you can't, because I can't see it. It's not like I can see it. You know what I mean Tony just showed up, though. Hey, we are live, Tony.
Tony D:Oh wow, really, I just want to know how you're doing Andrea? How are you doing man?
Andrea:I'm all right. How are you?
Carmen Lezeth:Do you guys know each other?
Andrea:Look at him, remember I called him girl once, that's still over for that, Trust me, that's still over.
Carmen Lezeth:For that I call everybody. It's like dude, Wait, wait, wait. Let me say first of all, welcome to everyone, to All About the Joy I got to start there. Hey, Rick, how you doing? What's up? Why are you late? You didn't tell me you're going to be late.
Rick Costa:I lost track of time completely.
Carmen Lezeth:Really Well, we're going to put that on your time card that you lost some time. You know what? I'm saying All right, how you doing, Tony. What's up? Oh a lot. Y'all always in this negative space.
Tony D:No, I'm not. Is this?
Carmen Lezeth:better for you? Is that what Cynthia sent you? I mean brought to your house in a care package.
Tony D:It is better for you. I just turned the volume up. Is it better for you?
Andrea:Wait, let me make the screen bigger.
Carmen Lezeth:What am I looking?
Andrea:at I'm confused.
Carmen Lezeth:Tony got a new mic. Is that the?
Tony D:mic Mic check one, two.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, you're fine.
Tony D:Is it working Okay? Thank you, hi Melanie.
Carmen Lezeth:Is that the mic that Cynthia brought to your house?
Tony D:She did not bring it to my house. Keep trying.
Rick Costa:Hi Andrea.
Carmen Lezeth:Hi, how are you? Andrea and I were about to have a personal conversation and then y'all showed up. I was like fuck them, we're going to go live, because none of them are here.
Andrea:We were scheduling June 1st Carmen, Just saying.
Carmen Lezeth:No, not June. Wait, I thought we said July. I, we said July. I'm going to override that and say June 1st. So just so everyone knows, this is my best friend and I haven't seen her in a long time, and so because she's so busy, we have to schedule time to hang out, and so I demanded it now, because it's been how long, I literally don't know. It's been months. And here's the thing it's not like she lives where tony lives or where rick costa lives. She lives what?
Carmen Lezeth:30 minutes from me well, like 45 on the best day, but yeah, the point is you don't live in another state and we have to schedule time to see each other. That's very bad. You know what I?
Carmen Lezeth:mean that is correct, but I will take it. I was giving you till july. I was saying, july, we can hook that shit up. You know what I mean. Um, so I'm going to start with asking uh, mr rick costa, what was the best thing that happened this week to you that gave you the most joy? I already know, but go ahead and share baby my son did his final college graduation.
Andrea:He's officially dr david costa of physical therapy I didn't even know you had kids, much less a doctor in the house, that's crazy Yep.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh yeah, he has. How old is your son now 20,. How old is?
Rick Costa:he 25.
Carmen Lezeth:25. And he is now a doctor, and so I said to you congratulations to you, because parents always act like it was void of them somehow. But that is just amazing and congratulations, and I'm so happy for you and I'm sorry. I know you sent me the, you sent me the picture and you know. You know, my Instagram thing now is like all my social media goes on kind of hold now when I'm at work. So but I did respond right Eventually, didn't I? It was a day later or something, but congratulations and that was a beautiful picture, yeah, that's a beautiful picture.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh my God, yay, that's amazing. Tony, how about you? What happened to you this week? That was joyful and awesome and great. Make this shit up, even if you don't have it. Oh my God, that's a god of that baby.
Tony D:This week nothing major, nothing special. Honestly, honestly, nothing major, nothing special. I have to be honest with you.
Carmen Lezeth:Anything small that gave you joy. How about being on the show, seeing my face? Does that bring you joy?
Tony D:Your ponytail? Yes, my, ponytail.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, can I tell you, I'm ready to cut my hair, I'm ready to shave my hair.
Tony D:Do not cut your hair. Do not cut your hair.
Carmen Lezeth:Andrea's like. Andrea's going to be like absolutely not We'll have that conversation later. I really am at the point where I'm getting too much gray hair and I'm tired of dyeing it and I'm like if I just buzzed, just did a really short haircut, it would just be different, it would be funny.
Rick Costa:I'd be like Wakanda forever. You'd be a Dora Milaje.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just saying Would you think differently if I cut my hair?
Rick Costa:No, of you.
Tony D:No, the real reason. And this is a good question, because a lot of women do cut their hair after a certain time. Why do women cut their hair? You want it to grow. It's a lot of work.
Andrea:It's a lot of work. It's a lot of work. You're just tired of the bullshit, tony, that's what it's like.
Carmen Lezeth:You're just done, I have gray hair, just so everyone knows. Wait, tony, tony, let me tell you, I have gray hair. It's always like, it's like alva, is it alvira? Whatever? Like I have gray hair that goes like this for some it doesn't come here, but it's like here, and I have to dye it like every three weeks because it just looks so bad. Well, I mean, I'm older, what do you want me to do? But I hate that. I would rather.
Rick Costa:Let it grow out.
Carmen Lezeth:I tried to let it go all gray, but I don't have enough gray for it to be gray yet. And Jay, you know what I'm saying, right, yeah, and then I was like, can we just dye it all gray? But then they're like, but then you'll have the dark hair growing in you with all the gray I will tell you honestly, let it be, let it go natural.
Tony D:Some people find it attractive to show that you're carrying your age well, even when you do have, gray.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm going to let Andrea answer that question. Go ahead, andrea, knock it out.
Andrea:I'm going to say it's less about what people find attractive and what Carmen feels comfortable with. So if she feels like, you know, the bride of Frankenstein, with the two things, thank you.
Carmen Lezeth:That's a problem. I don't even need to be here. I'm just going to let Andrea do the show.
Tony D:Thank you, baby, go ahead. This is fantastic, I got you Okay.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I mean, it just doesn't look good to have miscolored hair. But I was also thinking.
Tony D:I'm ready for a change If you're ready for a change. I understand that fully. I've also understood that in the summertime it gets hot and women cut their hair because of that as well.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, here's the thing I don't wear wigs right. So a lot of black women, people of color, wear a lot of wigs, which would be in my kind of best interest if I ever was that person. But a part of me was like that might be actually fun to cut it so short and then go different wigs every once in a while. You know what I mean. Just to have kind of a fun flavorful. Just throw that on and look at it. Tony's like. No, I can feel Tony's like.
Tony D:No, I listen to your perspective. I listen to a lot of women's perspective when they say they would do different hairstyles. So that's how I learn. So go ahead please.
Carmen Lezeth:It's okay, You're being very nice, Rick. What do you think I should cut my hair? Huh.
Rick Costa:You can do whatever you want to do. It's all about how does it make you feel better? That was very nice. Just, if you do the wig thing and you do a lot of styles, don't let the white people be like, oh, can I touch it?
Carmen Lezeth:Don't do that now anyways. That's not about it, that's the whole problem. They do that now.
Rick Costa:anyways, that's not a problem. That's the whole problem.
Carmen Lezeth:We don't do that. So I honestly, just to be straight up, I did not think Andrea was going to make it because we talked she was going to be traveling. You just got back yesterday. So, even though I sent her back a few hours ago, a few hours, ago. I'm so sorry she's exhausted. I did this whole agenda knowing that she would probably not be on and I realized we can't talk about X-Men 97 and we can't talk about 9-1-1.
Andrea:You can talk about it. I just won't have anything to add.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, well, here's the thing. Even if I talked about it, they're going to be upset because I fucking hated this damn show, but wait.
Tony D:Tony have you seen X-Men 97?.
Rick Costa:You hated it, rick. Here we go Okay.
Carmen Lezeth:Andrea, just sit and look as beautiful as you always do, just relax.
Tony D:Andrea, I need you to excuse us for a second. Yeah, go ahead, Come and resist. Talk amongst yourselves. Why did you hate the show?
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, Rick and I have already talked about it, so he's prepared. Okay, here's the thing. I didn't watch it growing up. I've never seen it growing up at all. When I was watching it I was texting, I think Cynthia or Rick, and I was like this is like a fucking Spanish novella. There was so much drama, so much like over the top soap opera shit in a fucking cartoon. I was like this is stupid shit. And because I don't know the comic books, I'm not a comic book person. I'm a Marvel. Look at Tony's dying. I like the Marvel movies, but I'm not a comic book aficionado. I was totally freaked out by the Magneto and what's her name? Rick Rogue.
Rick Costa:Rogue's relationship.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm like Magneto she's too young and I was so confused and disgusted by that. But then Rick explained to me that only in the movies did they make Rogue so young, but it doesn't even I mean. So that was helpful because I was freaking out about that. But also I just never knew that Magneto and Rogue were a thing, so it grossed me out. It just grossed me out completely.
Carmen Lezeth:Because, she was in love with Wolverine in the movies. Okay, other than that, let me just add one more thing. The animation is so dated. Right, I mean, that's the whole thing.
Cynthia:Hey, ted, I'm tired of dying my hair too.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't face purple crying, wear wings either. What x-men? 97 was fantastic. Hey carmen and joy antonio okay, so that's my look at I think.
Carmen Lezeth:let me just there's the last thing, and then you guys can talk about it, but only for five minutes, because I don't want to spend my whole show talking about a show I didn't like. Here's the last thing, and then you guys can talk about it, but only for five minutes, because I don't want to spend my whole show talking about a show I didn't like. Here's the thing I don't want to have to watch previous shows to enjoy a piece of art. That's like when somebody says, oh, you didn't like the movie, you should read the book. I shouldn't have to go read the book to enjoy the movie. Those are two different pieces of art. You know what I mean. So I think that if I had grown up watching X-Men the cartoon, the animation, whatever maybe I would have an appreciation to it. But no, okay, that's it. Go ahead, tony and Rick, do your thing.
Tony D:Rick, do you mind if I go first? Go right ahead, Andrea do you mind if we carry this conversation?
Carmen Lezeth:Andrea's. Fine, she's half asleep, it's okay Five minutes.
Tony D:Five, five minutes I will talk about this without giving any spoilers.
Carmen Lezeth:Honestly, you can give spoilers, because I'll give them all out to everybody.
Tony D:I'll do that. The thing is you don't have a previous experience with them. I get that. That's cool. That makes sense. The animation being dated, they did keep it to what it was back in 92, 93. I actually did like that because a lot of the new animation can be an issue. It's one of the reasons why I don't like some of the newer cartoons and what they're doing with the animation. If you remember the Dragon Ball Z days, they had issues with the animation messing with people mentally because it would activate people who have seizures.
Carmen Lezeth:I've never watched any of that anime. Kind of crappy shit I'm just telling you.
Tony D:I got you my synopsis on the whole thing. I understand your perspective. Let me tell you this this X-Men 97 was a darker version of X-Men 92, if you will, because it went a little bit more evil. If you will, I actually did credit how they changed the storyline up. As far as Magneto and Rogue, I kind of want to give you that because in the movie Magneto was tight with Mystique. Ever watch the cartoon or read the comics, whatever Mystique is Rogue's mom. I kind of give you that. That was cool. They had a little bit of a romantic relationship that was messed up. I kind of give you that a little bit.
Tony D:I like what they did with the storyline. I am actually a fan of X-Men 97. I thought they did a damn good job. As somebody who did watch the cartoon, back in the day I even watched X-Men Evolution. This went deeper than that and it went better than that. I like what they did with Cable. I thought that was phenomenal. I like what they did with Magneto and Professor X and how they're bringing everybody together. To me this is a new Marvel phase. They were doing different phases of Marvel, trying to bring everything up for what's coming next. I like what they did doing this one down in my five minutes. Go ahead, rick. I hope we pull out some news.
Rick Costa:Well, I mean, as far as the animation style, it's on purpose, because again they're trying to make it a continuation of the old version. It's definitely better than the old version. If you look at the old version, they're like, oh okay, yeah, but they definitely did that on purpose. And yeah, x-men has always been telenovela, soap opera, drama, always. It's always been that way with the comics. You just go bilingual on us, wow, yeah. Well, yeah, it's always been that way, but people are loving it. I've been seeing so many people review it. I actually did a video reviewing the first episode on YouTube and I said I'm only going to do another one if I get at least 25 views within a week.
Carmen Lezeth:And I'm already up to 20.
Rick Costa:I'm like, oh shoot, I'm in trouble now I gotta do something. Probably, cynthia, help us out. We're talking about x-men 9 to 7. Go ahead, rick. So the original one, the old one, was definitely much more kid friendly, like wolverine. You never saw him slice and dice a person. Robots yes, this one, no, this is adults. This is for the kid, the people that were kids and y'all are adults. Now that's for us. Yes, it is the last episode you just saw. He skewered somebody. It's like whoa, um, so yeah, but if you don't like anime, it's like you know. This reminds me of the conversation we had, carmen of what's the guy that he said comic movies can't be good because they're comic. He didn't say it in those words, but because they're comic movies, he's like they can't be on the same level or on the par of other movies. Who's that guy? What's that guy? I don't know who we're talking about. I don't know somebody who's a big, famous movie person, but he's, he doesn't take a comic.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean, I don't believe that at all. I believe any story can be told and shared. I think I think what I'm believing in this because afterwards I told you I went and looked at reviews. I went to Rotten Tomatoes because I was shook by it, but I think it's people who have been following it forever who have watched the cartoons. You do have to watch the backstory and get into it. All I'm saying is as somebody who has never been involved watching the cartoons. It was blah at most and there were, like you could tell by the reviews, like it was either total number fives like awesome praise or people like this totally sucks. Those are the people that never saw and never were into this kid. That's what I realized and I felt good about that.
Rick Costa:I felt fine because I was like, okay, I'm normal yeah, yeah, there's definitely people that have not seen the old one, though that did like the new one too, too, but I mean, like I said, different strokes for different things, but I think you have to want to watch the prior cartoon.
Tony D:You have to be a fan, Carmen. I do agree with that. I'm a fan of the movies and the characters.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm not a fan of the cartoon.
Tony D:The cartoon's phenomenal.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, go ahead. Cynthia your thoughts.
Tony D:Go ahead. God bless the cartoon.
Cynthia:So, yes, I binge-watched all eight episodes at once. So when you text me saying that you got through only five episodes and you were like no, wait, wait, wait, wait, I did that at episode three to Rick and he was like you have to get to episode five.
Carmen Lezeth:And that's when I was like I'm done, I watched it to five.
Tony D:Watch the rest.
Cynthia:So I used to watch the cartoon growing up. So I knew the backstory already. But I kind of agreed with Steve Carman as far as the novella with Jean Grey and Cyclops, because I was kind of getting annoyed with her too. But once you pass episode five, that's when it really starts to get good. Rick was like okay.
Carmen Lezeth:I know you just got through three, just do five. If you get to five, then if you don't like it now, she's like yeah, it can't take that long, it cannot, I ain't gonna lie.
Rick Costa:At the end of five. I was boohooing, I was crying, literally crying.
Andrea:Andrea, I would invite you to try to watch 20 minutes of one episode, fuck.
Tony D:No, did you watch the cartoon, andrea?
Andrea:I don't even know what you guys are fucking talking about.
Cynthia:I mean, I've heard of the X-Men movies.
Andrea:Didn't know it was a comic book. Definitely didn't know it was a series. I don't even know my girl. I love her.
Carmen Lezeth:We miss you, andrea, I love you. I do agree with this. With different strokes for different folks. I do think and I'm glad that people are so happy reading the reviews that people are just getting something out of it, and that's what I think is great about art. It doesn't have to be for everyone. Everyone doesn't have to like it. You can't make someone like something, you know. Look, I'll say this too. I'm not a big cartoon animation person. To begin with, you know, after the age of eight, I think I was kind of done. You know, I was rehearsing early in the morning, rehearsing at night. I wasn't a big cartoon watcher. I will say this Watching this, what's it called? I will say this Watching this, what's it called? What is it? X -Men 97. It reminded me of don't get upset, but it reminded me of do you guys remember the cartoon Speed Racer? As a kid, I need something to drink.
Tony D:I can't I can't?
Carmen Lezeth:You said Speed Racer.
Tony D:I'll be right back. Are you upset because I said Speed Racer? Oh my.
Carmen Lezeth:God, you chased him off.
Cynthia:What is happening?
Carmen Lezeth:Why is he upset? I'm just saying, do you guys remember that cartoon? He needs to go get his peach schnapps to get through the door he hit a nerve.
Rick Costa:Yeah, get out the peach schnapps. I barely remember it, but I don't think I really watched it.
Carmen Lezeth:I hated that show. It went against whatever show I was watching as a kid and when I was growing up, the person that got to watch TV was always the older person in the room. He got to choose and he would always watch speed racer and it, and the cartoon reminds me of that. It's kind of animation, but it's also about racing, and, and I just and I forget what the show was that I wanted to watch, but it came against it. You know what I mean, um, but that's what it reminded me of was I was being forced to watch this show because you guys all oh, okay, melanie remembers it, okay, thank you, um, but I, that's what I felt. And look at the only reason why I watched it. And you know, rick, rick felt so bad Cause I was like I don't have Disney, so I purchased it for the month just to watch it, and then I canceled it right after. Well, cause I wanted to see what the hoopla was. You know what I? So I, I got it, like on a friday night after hearing these guys talk about it, and then, like by sunday or whatever it was, rick, I was like cancel my subscription, I'm done. Yeah, I'm good, because I don't need anything else on disney, but I was just cracking up like wow, yeah, so I can't believe he left because of that. No, he's just being silly.
Carmen Lezeth:All right, let's talk about something else. I do want to talk about one show. Andrea, I know you haven't even had time to watch TV, but it's not what you do. But, cynthia, you know what I'm going to talk about 911. Oh my God, rick, have you seen the show? Your hook right? 911,. Have you seen the show? Is it called 911,? Cynthia, has Tony seen 911? Has tony seen 9-1-1? Yeah, no, yeah, oh, are you not talking to us now? Oh, he must be on ted show with something right now. He must be doing like a double time on ted show. Is ted show on it's?
Andrea:like he's running back and forth to each one.
Carmen Lezeth:That's what he does though is he on rick? I'm gonna double check his audio is on.
Rick Costa:Obviously you know how he is, you know how he is he, you know how he is he's making his drink.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just going to say this there are very few shows that I get addicted to quickly. I just want to say, cynthia, thank you so much. I love this show. It stars Angela Bassett, which I had no idea that she was doing a TV show, and she's been doing it for a long time. When's the show been on? It must have been before COVID, because I just saw a COVID episode 9-1-1 has been on for a minute.
Tony D:I haven't watched it.
Carmen Lezeth:So it was on Wednesday, like 2019 or something.
Tony D:Yes, it was on Friday. Let me just say I did not know.
Carmen Lezeth:Angela Bassett was doing TV I don't know why along the way, I did not know this and she plays a cop like a beat cop, like a you know. Okay, wait, Did Rick just put X-Men rule? X-men does rule, but X-Men 97 sucks the cartoon. But you're absolutely right. Is that what we're doing? I guess I'm going to start writing in the chat too, but look, let me just say this the thing that I love about this show.
Carmen Lezeth:And look, we all love Fireman. But if you ever wanted to love Fireman more, this is the show for you. But it's about the relationships.
Tony D:How many Fireman shows do you remember would be my question.
Carmen Lezeth:I've never seen any Fireman shows. I knew, okay, I used to work for a big time manager here in California when I first moved here and she represented Kevin Tai, which none of you will know who Kevin Tai is, but Kevin Tai, I believe, was on a show back in the day before we were all born, called like uh, I don't even know, can we, can we google him? It's t-i-g-h-e.
Tony D:It was like emergency or something like an oh, I know that show abc with lauren green, I remember that show.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, I remember all that, but but I think that's what the show it was a police show or a fireman show, whatever.
Rick Costa:I watched that yeah, kevin tie t-i-g-e.
Carmen Lezeth:I got it kevin ty yeah I'm on his wikipedia yeah, so joni berstein, I mean, she, she has a lot of to this day. She's a big time manager and uh, whatever. But yeah, also that too. But I I mean I think it was he was a guest on mod squad but he was a regular on some show. Did you guys google him, because I forget what?
Tony D:yeah I know who he is.
Andrea:It was emergency with an exclamation mark. Yeah, yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah. So when I first came to LA I brushed up on all those shows because I had to know all of the clients that Joni represented. But other than that I'd never known a show about firemen or and I don't watch policemen show, maybe a law and order once in a while, but I, you know, I don't like gory stuff. But but the thing about the show is the relationships. That's why it's so good. Like Angela Bassett and Peter Krause Peter Krause is from I remember was it Six Feet Under the show, six Feet Under. That's where I know Peter Krause from.
Tony D:I was like Thank you for saying that.
Carmen Lezeth:What do you mean?
Tony D:I'm sorry y'all. I've been trying to remember the name of that show. It was an HBO show, wasn't it? Yeah, I remember that show. I can't remember the name of it. It was Six Feet Under, and there was another show that used to come on HBO right around that same time.
Carmen Lezeth:Sex and the City. That's what I remember we would watch.
Tony D:We'd watch Sex and the City. I don't watch that show.
Carmen Lezeth:That's how I knew Andrea. We always went and watched.
Tony D:Sex and so many movies and so many TV shows.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, melanie, you're absolutely right, but I just didn't know him. I met him and I met all of the clients, so I always wanted to know everything they were on, because I was working for the manager and and, and and. That's kind of what happened. That's the only show I ever remember watching, and the and his partner on there was good looking. That's all I remember.
Rick Costa:Oh, the native American guy yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know, but Kevin Tye was also a good man. I don't know. Is he still alive? I feel so bad. I think he is.
Tony D:Do you know him personally? Yeah, I met him. If you could ever bring him on the show, I would love to have a conversation with him, hey, Kevin do you remember me from?
Rick Costa:I just liked.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, I mean I'm sure he's cool. I mean I could ask him. I don't think that'd be a big deal, I could get it, but I don't know if I'd get him on the show. You guys are so fucking cool.
Tony D:He's done a lot of stuff and when I see his face I do recognize him from some of this. He was in Witch Mountain. I mean Escape to Witch Mountain, which I used to watch as a kid, the specials too. Back in the day on abc they had this. They had like um a couple of witch mountain movies back in the day. I remember seeing that he did star trek voyager spoiler alert.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't remember that I don't remember that either. Yeah, he was on?
Tony D:er that I remember?
Carmen Lezeth:because that was about the time I was there, yeah, he was on roadhouse.
Tony D:People would recognize his face from roadhouse. That was a very.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean, I think people would recognize his face. I don't think people.
Tony D:The hardy boys and the nancy drew mistress. I remember that too.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean I wasn't here for that, but I remember talking about he was a cool guy. I mean maybe I will ask him. That's funny. It's not like I couldn't get in touch with him, but it's funny because, um, when I first met the person I worked for, um, and I he like you, meet all of these people, and these people at the time were celebrities, but they weren't the big time celebrities they are today and I'm not talking about Kevin Tye, but her other celebrities, if you know who she is, and Andrea knows a couple of the people who were like not celebrities and are now huge. Right, I mean he was so cool because he was the first person I met who was like let's grab a beer, and he was just like it was so cool, let's go. Yeah, he was like let's just go grab a beer. I'm like okay, and it was kind of fun. So, um, but yeah, why did? Why are we talking about that? Why did I bring up kevin tundman?
Rick Costa:9-1-1 the show.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh yeah, so the show I love the relationships and I just would have never put together angela bassett and peter krause and it so works, and. But my favorite character on there is Buck. But none of them have watched this, so I won't. But let me just tell you, if you want a nice fun show, where you, I think I cry every show because they save somebody, right, like it's fire. Okay, wait, wait, wait.
Carmen Lezeth:Here's the other thing I'll say, and then we can move on to another topic, because I'm okay, I'm not watching it in order because I refuse to pay whatever it's on Hulu or whatever. So I have to watch it as it's being recorded on all the other streaming things I have, right. So I tell YouTube I want to see 9-1-1, so it starts recording it as they're being aired, so they're all over the place. So I'm watching like one episode in season three and then another episode in season seven or something, whatever is happening, right? So I'm watching this and I'm enjoying it, but I'm getting so confused because he's gay. I keep texting Cynthia and she's like you got to watch it from the beginning and I'm like I can't, I can't, but I'm so addicted to it.
Carmen Lezeth:It's a fun show. It's a fun show and it was all these I watched, I think I don't know. I've watched like 15 episodes, probably Not back to back, just like since we talked about it last week, just randomly, but a lot of them. I think like yesterday was the first time there was actually a fire that they went to. I'm like they're firemen and they never go to an actual fire. It's always like some other tragedy.
Cynthia:They deal with a lot more medical stuff than actual fire.
Tony D:We get called for a lot of emergencies. Yeah, any type of medical emergency. You see, the fire department and the police show up.
Rick Costa:yes, yeah, when I had my pipes frozen and they busted and I didn't, the water was gushing from the third floor down all the way to the basement like Noah's Ark and I didn't know what to do. I thought I knew how to shut everything off and I apparently didn't. And then I didn't and then I I didn't know what to do. So I called them. They came and he go, let me see your basement. And then he found he goes oh right, here this is the shut off for the whole water, for everything. I was like nobody ever told me this. I didn't know. So he shut it off and problems solved yeah, they, they come up.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't know, but I learned so much. So here's the thing in santa monica I live near the stairs, whatever. The firemen always go there to work out. Andrea knows they always are there. They park their fire. I have, and you know, we're always like, hmm, they're so good looking right. You always think the calendar, whatever. But after watching the show I'm like like genuflecting and shit. I'm like, oh my God, they're looking at me like I'm a weirdo. I'm like, damn, this shit that these people do is amazing. So I want to give a. But also, it's a great show 9-1-1. The relationships make no sense to me, but they all work. I love that they have gay characters, but it doesn't matter. Like it's the first show where it's not an emphasis and I think that's what I got out of it.
Cynthia:Like I'm watching a show and people are just a couple, and then I'm like, oh yeah, they're gay.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, okay, right, yeah, you don't even see it like it's just okay. They got a family and they're working, whatever. I recommend the show like I'm just like I love it. I love it. And I haven't even seen the best part, which is how angela bassett and peter krause get together, because I haven't even seen the first two seasons, because that's when it happens, right. Yeah, spoiler alert, they get together and they love each other. And her ex-husband I just found out today is gay. Just want to let you all know, like I didn't know, I was so confused only to my mistake.
Carmen Lezeth:Kevin ty is from emergency. I got his name mixed up with tig andrews. Yeah, who was on the? Watch okay it's all good. I don't know any of those old timers, all their shows, but I just knew him because I worked for him, basically, but it's all good. So let's talk about some relationships. Favorite TV couple Look it. Tony thinks it's going to be all about him. Look at him.
Cynthia:He's all about me, look it your relationship with Cynthia is your body.
Carmen Lezeth:We don't care okay.
Tony D:No, you didn't. She is married. Do not do that to her over the internet.
Carmen Lezeth:Look it look it, I know one. I understand Cynthia's choices, I don't mind.
Tony D:Wow.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, andrea, let me give you the background. We have been bitching to Tony about getting a mic for so long, like offering it or whatever, and finally Cynthia went to his house and gave him a mic. Stop that.
Tony D:The internet is forever.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what? We're just joking. She didn't fly to your motherfucking house, but I can't help it. It's funny, cynthia had an extra mic and sent it to him, but it's been like pulling hairs just trying to get Tony to give out his address or whatever.
Tony D:The very few he has.
Carmen Lezeth:I almost said something that's the best friend messing with you? That's not even me, Andrea. Talk to us about any favorite movie or TV couples that you might love or enjoy.
Andrea:You know what you got to come back to me, because I can hear someone coming in the door right now.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, no problem, go ahead, rick, knock it out or Cynthia, don't matter. I'm going to let Tony not talk, because he has enough footage already.
Rick Costa:So Rogue and Gambit, oh, come on Gene and Scott Gene and Scott, come on.
Carmen Lezeth:All right, let me be specific. Television, regular live action, no cartoons, animation, shows that we all would know. Now he's talking.
Rick Costa:I got to think Luke and Laura from General Hospital. Oh my God, this dude that's why you like x-men oh look see, he said two they're like the most famous couple for some reason, I don't know why okay, it's funny that two men actually talk about general high school she made. We had, like you said, with the older person what an? Old person wants to watch. That's what you watch no, it wasn't that.
Carmen Lezeth:It was an older kid in the house, it wasn't. An old person wants to watch. That's what you watch. No, it wasn't that much. It was an older kid in the house, it wasn't an older person watching. Speed. You can just embrace that. You watched Luke and Laura on what was it, what was the show General Hospital General. Hospital. Go ahead, nikki, hey D.
Tony D:Nikki and Vector.
Carmen Lezeth:Newman in Young and the Restless Is that why you're not Angie and Jessie?
Tony D:I can't stand Angie.
Carmen Lezeth:Who's Angie and Jessie?
Tony D:I think all my children have one life to live. He ain't right.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay. It's all the men who watch soap operas.
Tony D:I'm going to answer that because we had no choice when we were kids, when our parents had a TV and there was only one TV in the house.
Carmen Lezeth:I mean, if that's the story, you need to go with this.
Tony D:okay, I get you excuse me, you did not see x-men. You understand, you can relate I.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't watch x-men because I was busy rehearsing oh my goodness it wasn't my thing. I didn't watch those kind of cartoons. I didn't like that kind of animation. I wasn't a big cartoon person and jesse.
Carmen Lezeth:I forgot about this I don't even know who and you just I really don't know. And I don't know who nicked him nicky? I didn't watch soap operas I heard of of Luke and Laura because you could not not hear about it. But there was also. Who were the Dynasty people? Or Falcon Crash? Remember the soap operas at night? Who was the member? What was the line? Who shot JR?
Tony D:That was Dallas.
Carmen Lezeth:That was what.
Tony D:Dallas.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, again the men correcting Dallas. I'm just saying those are the soap operas at night, you know what I mean. Well, I was going to say what did you like about those relationships? But I guess not, because you guys don't really have anything. Do you guys get uncomfortable watching two men or two women kiss on television? Just curious.
Tony D:Two men yes.
Rick Costa:But not two women. Oh, that's interesting.
Carmen Lezeth:Go ahead, andrea, I don't need to be here.
Tony D:Yes.
Carmen Lezeth:Tony DiNozza and Ziva on NCIS. They have their own show coming out. I love it. Ted Hicks, we're on the same page. Okay, go ahead, Andrea. Talk about why there might be an issue here for Tony D I can't hear you.
Tony D:You're muted, you're muted. I can't hear you, you're muted.
Andrea:You're muted. Sorry, I was coughing so I muted myself. I said I was just asking questions, but you know, because he said two men, yes, but didn't say two women, so go ahead ask him.
Tony D:Yeah, it's uncomfortable. I've always been uncomfortable seeing two men kiss. It's just something in me. I just don't like it. Not two women, probably not. No, I'm a man. What do you want me to say? It's fine. As far as couples, I'm going to go with T'Challa and Nikoye because I'm waiting on their third Black Panther movie.
Carmen Lezeth:We're not changing subjects for the whole game, oh.
Cynthia:I'm telling the truth, T'Challa. We do love Black Panther. It's their relationship Wakanda.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, no, okay, wait, why do you have with two men kissing but not two women? Just curious, not issue, but it makes you uncomfortable. It's fair, it's a fair point.
Tony D:It makes me uncomfortable, it makes me uncomfortable.
Carmen Lezeth:Let's change it. Why is it okay for two women to kiss and that doesn't bother you?
Tony D:I never said it was okay. It just doesn't make me as uncomfortable as seeing two dudes kiss.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, that's fair.
Tony D:That's the truth. But, why, I don't know why it just does. Maybe it's because I'm heterosexual, I don't know. Okay, I will say as a heterosexual we don't like seeing dudes kiss, we just don't. I mean, I understand the society now and everybody's going to be whoever they choose to be, because they have the right to be, and that's the absolute truth. It just makes me uncomfortable.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm don't need to see nobody making out, period. You know what I like that because I think some people need like I've said it so many times strangers get a hotel. You don't need to be out here middle of the street half naked you know what I mean Like I can see a kiss or a hug or whatever, and even like a little romantic. But people who are feeling each other up, we at the grocery store bitch what you doing. It ain't all that. The eggs are on sale, that's a couple of them.
Tony D:Yeah, Ted, no diddy.
Carmen Lezeth:What? What's no diddy? Oh, Carmen, Carmen, Carmen.
Tony D:Oh Carmen.
Carmen Lezeth:But I don't, we'll expand on it.
Tony D:So our Okay, there's a very big stereotype that's been going around the news, specifically around the past couple of weeks, but definitely for a few years, that Diddy has some Rather aggressive relationships with people.
Carmen Lezeth:With men or women.
Tony D:A lot of men recently A lot of men, and it's not been necessarily consensual, for lack of a better term.
Carmen Lezeth:So he's raping men or something Abusing men.
Tony D:Abusing. I'm going to say abusing more than raping. I've been hearing this all over.
Carmen Lezeth:TikTok, I had to Google it. Sprinkle, sprinkle, drizzle drizzle.
Tony D:I'll never say this again, but don't worry about what Brian said right now.
Carmen Lezeth:No, no, no. I know here's the thing because I'm always trying to make sure I'm up on what's going on. I was like what's with all this drizzle, drizzle and I made the mistake of Googling it and then going down that rabbit hole of like knowing all these motherfucking saints. I'm cool, I'm cool with it. The kicker is they Because the women are all saying now sprinkle, sprinkle or something right, or they're saying drizzle, drizzle, wow.
Tony D:Yeah, they raided Diddy's house a couple of weeks ago and it's been like an onslaught against him, major onslaught against him, stereotyping him, chastising him.
Carmen Lezeth:Do you think it's deserved or not? A lot of the truth then. Yes, it is deserved. Are you uncomfortable knowing that P Diddy whatever his name is because he's had several right, is that? Sean.
Tony D:Combs, is that Sean?
Carmen Lezeth:Combs, are you uncomfortable with the idea that he would sleep with men?
Tony D:Yes, take advantage of him and get him.
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, okay you know what. Okay, let's not talk about P Diddy and his troubles. Do you have an issue with any man sleeping with another man? You said you had an issue with somebody kissing another man.
Tony D:Yeah, I do, Bobby.
Carmen Lezeth:What happens in the cellar room stays in the cellar room.
Tony D:Easy there, bro, easy there. Those relationships do make me uncomfortable. Yes, anybody taking advantage of anybody sexually makes me totally uncomfortable.
Carmen Lezeth:No, okay, we're on the same page there. That's not even a question of course. We do not at all want anyone to be taking advantage of anybody at any time. It is not appropriate. Man, woman doesn't matter, age, child okay, that's not even that's all.
Tony D:I will kill somebody who hurts a child, so I have no problem, yeah, all about the murder how to get away with murder, that's do you have a problem with?
Carmen Lezeth:men who make love or kiss each other, or women. Do you feel uncomfortable seeing that on television or anything? No.
Tony D:Seeing men do it yes. No Seeing men do it. It makes me uncomfortable.
Andrea:Oh, she asked me. You know, we know, I asked Andrea, it's all about Tony, though.
Tony D:Hold on, dude. You were asking me first. I didn't hear you mention her name. Go ahead, I'm sorry.
Andrea:No, I don't have a problem with it, but I would agree with Rick. I don't need to see all the business all right. Look, I'm happy. People are happy If you're kissing someone, you have someone you love or even are into more power to you. There's more of that that's needed.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't care. As long as no one's getting hurt and everyone's legal, it's all good. Cynthia, do you have an issue with seeing men kiss? No.
Cynthia:I mean, I have no problem seeing anybody kiss. But I agree with all of you guys, I don't need to see the big PDA like big display of affection and slobbering and groping each other out on the street.
Carmen Lezeth:We are okay with the LGBTQ community.
Tony D:Yeah, they're fine. If you find somebody to be in love with, we'll give you that. That's great, I'll say this.
Carmen Lezeth:I think it matters who you grew up around, I think it matters your comfort level. And I'm just wondering, Tony, this is actually a question for you but, like, I grew up with dancers and performers, men and women. Men specific, there were a lot of men I knew, especially during the eighties, during the whole AIDS thing that unfortunately passed away. And there were a lot of men that I knew who, like I, was confused by why there was so much hatred, that's how infused in the world of people who love each other I can't even say like the gay world, because it wasn't that. It was a mix of performers and you know what I mean. Like it was just dancers and drill team and color guard and drum corps and it was just a mix of wonderful people and people who would go clubbing at night and go dancing and it never even dawned on me. So I was confused by the drama when the whole AIDS thing, the whole AIDS epidemic, happened, why people were so hating it. You know what I mean. Like we were all pretty young in the eighties when that happened. So I didn't understand.
Carmen Lezeth:And I love that because I think it made it easier for me to not feel uncomfortable, Like it's weird for me to say, Tony, are you uncomfortable about two men kissing? Cause it's. It wouldn't even dawn on me as a like. It would be like are you uncomfortable seeing a man and a woman kiss in public? Like's a weird. Why would anyone ask that question.
Tony D:I'll answer it like this no, you're fine. You're fine and I'm going to give a very fair answer. We had this conversation on the other platform about almost three years ago now. When we talked about it, I said this to a lot of people. I said I'm going to say this specifically to a lot of members of the homosexual community why there was a chastisement against you. There was actually teachings of that being used as a way to dominate people and how many people they did it to, to where it was. Them was a few.
Carmen Lezeth:Yes, If you look at slavery, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, I'll tell you.
Tony D:There were stories in slavery where the guys would sodomize the men, and rape and sodomy are definitely two different charges. Rape is, I guess, one sex against the other and sodomy are definitely two different charges. Rape is, I guess, one sex against the other and sodomy is unnatural sex acts. So there were unnatural sex acts done against the slaves so much that they feel it is like almost infused and some of the people going along those lines are pretty much living what was done to them and they had to get used to it because there was almost no choice. So a lot of the dissent against homosexuality was because it was used as domination. It was used as torture against people to get them to do what they wanted to do. So when a lot of people would adapt to it, they were like no, you're adapting to what was used against you. It's not the natural way. That was how I was raised on a lot of things and we saw homosexuality as a sin.
Tony D:As a Christian Now I know a lot of people don't deal with the Christianity or the religious aspects. I get that. I understand people who look at spirituality over gender when they love somebody. I get that too. So love who you love. Find somebody who loves you as much as you love them and go be happy, regardless of anybody's judgment even mine, because I do know gay couples. They do know that I get uncomfortable, but I respect their happiness. It's just my preference.
Carmen Lezeth:You just went a whole other level in my book. Oh, I appreciate it Because you just explained, look it. I think it takes a really strong and amazing, well-informed, beautiful spirit to admit everything you just admitted and have such logic Like I totally understand you in a whole different way, tony, and let me just say I appreciate you sharing that Well, thank you, and it's the truth, because I don't-.
Tony D:Being honest, that was awesome. We were young 70s, 80s we all know the homosexuals caught a lot of abuse, torture and torment. We know this as we grow up and realize that some people just found somebody of the same sex to be happy with, because some people could not find somebody of the opposite sex to be happy with.
Carmen Lezeth:But, but let me just stop you there for a moment, because you do understand that, like I have a brother who I love with all my heart and he is gay. There is no chance that he's like, oh, if I could just find a woman. It is not, it's like me thinking I could be with a woman, it's just never going to happen. Do you understand, or do you believe, or do you get the?
Tony D:possibility that that is natural for him, just as it's natural for me to never want to be with a woman the way to push them right now, yes, now for you.
Carmen Lezeth:So I'm asking for you, I'm asking for you, like do you understand that for him, for my brother, there's no way on the planet that the reason why he's with a man is because he can't find the right woman?
Tony D:I've actually I've actually talked to a lot of people who are homosexual. No disrespect when the term just being honest terminology they liked to somebody of the same sex. I've talked to them. They just found happiness with somebody of the same gender and they were done. I get that. I'm just glad it's not forced on people the way it was historically, the people who are finding it naturally now. They do make sense to me, but they they do make sense to me. But I want them to understand those of us who are older who were against it. What we were taught was homosexuality was used as torture.
Carmen Lezeth:It was used as a way, all of those stories, okay, but here's the thing. So and I say this because I hope we can shed some light to other people Like, even though it was maybe used in torture, in slavery times and whatever, I haven't done enough research to be like yes, you're right, I don't know, I'm trusting your judgment on that, so let's just say that's even true. I want to express to you that there are people who are gay. Because they are gay, it has nothing to do with Christianity or torture or some historical thing that was processed on them. It is natural for them to be attracted to the same sex.
Tony D:I do understand that, because there's also proof of it being a recessive trait in their DNA that they may just switch.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, we're going way in the weeds that I cannot.
Tony D:I don't know.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know where you get that info. I don't want to get into DNA stuff because I can't. I'm just saying I don't know if you or I are qualified enough to be start talking about.
Tony D:No, no problem.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what. I'm just being honest. Like I'm not a chemist, I don't know a chemist. I haven't talked to a chemist lately. I don't want to get into the DNA of it because I don't think DNA has anything to do with me being attracted to men.
Tony D:No, there'll be a connection with somebody that you can't explain it. That makes sense to me. That does make sense to me.
Carmen Lezeth:Do you think you could be attracted to a man? Okay, sorry, sorry, guys. This is such a fascinating conversation. I don't know if that's a DNA thing. I think there's something more nuanced in there, right.
Tony D:Let me put it. I'll say I was more raised not to be my society that I grew up in, the people that I grew up around. It wasn't happening for me.
Carmen Lezeth:Wait, I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing at Andrea, because we both had to save the hotline Environment.
Tony D:Absolutely 100%.
Andrea:I mean, I just said I also appreciate you sharing that. I have read things about that. I don't have a whole, you know wealth of knowledge on it, but it, the way you explained it, makes a lot of sense in terms of why it's so troublesome or problematic for some people. Right Like I get that. Yeah, exactly yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Especially in the black community. I'm going to say that especially in the black community there is. There is a hard I mean I think we're getting better at it but there is a hard, difficult process in accepting people who are gay. And my friend, richard Johnson, who everyone knows was one of my best friends, who passed away at the young age of 49. He was gay from a very religious family, pastor. His father, his father, was a pastor. He was in the choir and nobody knew he was gay. We all knew he was gay. Do you know what I mean? Like? And and it was a? It was a torture for him because it was a sin.
Carmen Lezeth:It was all the things you're talking about and for me I believe that's why he died because the the, the torture of this societal pressure, and then who he actually was as a person did not match.
Tony D:And it's it's the chastisement really comes from. A lot of the historical ways of it being used against people. Period. And I send this out to the whole homosexual community, the bisexual, all of you notice. Historically they were taught that it was used against people as domination, which is disrespectful. If you picked it up within yourself, we can't hold that against you entirely. If you make your own choice and you found somebody to be happy with, by all means, the faster you find somebody happy to be with, the faster society is at peace.
Andrea:So I think, totally hear you, tony, but I think that the point that Carmen was trying to make is it's not a choice, it's not a choice, it's not a choice.
Tony D:What is it? A choice, is it?
Andrea:a choice for you to be attracted to women versus men. You feel like you have a choice.
Tony D:That's a question I've heard from a couple of people If you actually sat down.
Andrea:I'm not talking about a particular woman, I'm just saying is it a choice for you to be heterosexual versus homosexual or bisexual?
Tony D:Yeah, that question. That's one of the more interesting questions I've actually been asked by a homosexual woman. Why are you heterosexual? Is it because that's what you were taught or is that because that's what you were feeling? And I found that to be interesting. I have no feeling to be intimate, to fantasize, to be sexual with no man. None, that is a fight from how I was raised. But if you could find somebody to be happy with who will not take advantage of you regardless of the gender, age, race, whatever, Godspeed.
Andrea:I think we're talking about two different things. I agree with you for sure If you can find someone to be happy with. But like I am not attracted to women right, like I'm a heterosexual woman, I could be happy with Carmen, like hanging out, being a friend.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what's so funny? I was just going to say the same thing. Like I love and enjoy with all my heart.
Andrea:I am not going to want to like make out with her and have sex with her and be like physically, romantically attracted to her in that way.
Cynthia:I could be happy with her you know.
Andrea:You know what I mean, because it's not even a choice for me. So my goal is to men versus women, Because I do get it and honestly, it's not even a choice for me. Like is two men versus women.
Tony D:So may I ask you, why do you feel that you couldn't be intimate with a woman?
Andrea:Why do I feel it? Because I just don't have that attraction.
Tony D:So you feel the same way I do Women. It's not going to happen, cause I remember she asked me earlier, kind of like why Other?
Andrea:women can do it. I'm, you know, and I'm not you know. If a woman is attracted to me, I'm not, you know, going to be like get the fuck out of my face or something like that. You know what I mean. Like it doesn't make me uncomfortable, it's just like would, honestly when I'm sure you probably heard most of us have heard women say this all the time jesus christ, I wish I was a lesbian. It would make my life so much fucking easier.
Tony D:I've never heard women say that, oh my.
Andrea:God, women say that all the time, all the time.
Carmen Lezeth:Do you know how much easier my life would be if I could be with Andrea? We're best friends, I get her, she gets me. It's simple. I just sorry. I love men. Just to piggyback off of what Andrea was saying it's not a choice, tony. There might be people out there who are choosing, and great, there are people who are. Is it binary or is it bisexual? I think there might be people who are bisexual, who are attracted to both, but that's a different subject. But what I'm saying to you, it is not a choice for me to choose to love men like I. It's not okay. Let me say that I love women and I love men, and I said it kind of funny earlier and I know it was kind of vulgar, but I do enjoy the penis like I enjoy the male we're getting into the x-rated version of the show.
Carmen Lezeth:Actual thing.
Rick Costa:Put your kids away. Hide your kids, hide your wife.
Carmen Lezeth:We're getting into the X-rated version of the show. I'm just saying like that's not a choice, and I'm going to tell you right now. My brother, billy, would tell you the same exact thing. There is no way on the planet that man would ever, in any way, shape or form, be attracted to Andrea and be like, oh my God, I want to be with her.
Tony D:Ever, ever, ever, in any way, shape or form, be attracted to andrea and be like oh my god, I want to be with her, ever, ever, or cynthia, he wouldn't be like. Oh my god cynthia.
Carmen Lezeth:I want her so bad. Never because it's he's not attracted to them at all. She loves the people. I do love the penis. I could do without the rest of the man, though now that I've heard from women a.
Andrea:That's why we all wish we could be lesbians.
Carmen Lezeth:Because there are great toys out there now. You don't need them anymore. Anyway, sorry, tony, what were you saying?
Tony D:You said two.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, okay, that's my fault. I invited that again. I know that's my fault. It's okay, bobby. Let's bring it back. My apologies, that's my fault. I invited that. I know that's my fault, it's okay, bobby. Let's bring it back. My apologies, that's my fault, it's okay, you didn't ask me why.
Tony D:As far as being heterosexual and that's why I was asking why as far as being lesbian, homosexual, if you will, between you two, and that was the only reason I was asking. You didn't ask me why. Could you ask yourself why you would be your preference?
Andrea:Well, I mean, that is the point, right, you're born this way. There is no why. That's just the way I was born. I was born right-handed, I was born with blue eyes, I was born heterosexual.
Tony D:Pretty much, pretty damn much.
Carmen Lezeth:You're just born this way.
Tony D:Kimmy.
Carmen Lezeth:Callie said something good. You got to take the good with the bad. Yo listen.
Tony D:I'm living in my bed from now on because some of y'all, that's a whole other rabbit hole.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh no, please do indulge. We have a few minutes. What were you?
Tony D:saying Don't get me started. I try to keep the show pumped. Don't get me started.
Carmen Lezeth:No, no, you were doing so good. What's wrong? What's wrong? Oh, quite a few things every now and then, but I'm all right, I'm going to let you think as the Bible aficionado here in the room, as the Christian person speaking for all Christians in the country and in the world. No, I'm just kidding. Tell us, is it a sin as far as you're concerned?
Rick Costa:It's not biblical. So if yeah, I'm sorry.
Carmen Lezeth:You need to expand on that. For us who don't, men shouldn't sleep with men.
Rick Costa:Women shouldn't sleep with women. It does say that. So what am I going to do?
Tony D:That's what it says.
Carmen Lezeth:And what verse what?
Rick Costa:I would definitely have to let anybody connect to the Bible.
Tony D:That's in the Old Testament. I believe it's Exodus or Deuteronomy. It's also in the New Testament.
Carmen Lezeth:I believe it's St Corinthians, you know. You know what we're gonna have to have an all-girls show. You can't get good penis without some ripples in the water, oh my lord. Hey, dean, I think sex and love are separate things. We sometimes cross with someone, even to each individual and emotion. You know what, dean, I'm gonna agree with you. I do think sex and love are two different things. However, however, your attraction does not sway, like it doesn't matter how much I love. Well, cynthia is my cousin, so we can't. But just to use Andrea as an example, it doesn't matter how much I love Andrea, we never going to have sex. It's never going to happen because that's not our relationship and neither one of us are attracted to each other in that way. That way, however, I can have sex with my boyfriend or a guy that I know and not be in love with him. Do you know what I mean? Like we could just have sex and I can be in love with somebody else you know what I mean, so I agreed there, if that makes sense.
Carmen Lezeth:We got to just have a girl's night on the penis. We don't call it that Girl's night on the penis.
Rick Costa:Could I just say something though too? So a lot of times we were talking about well, if you find somebody to be happy with, that's separate from who you're attracted to, like. I've talked to gay people and they're like female body parts, ew, gross, like totally disgusted. Just like Tony seeing two guys would be disgusted looking at two guys kissing. Just as much as a gay person would be disgusted by thinking about being with a woman. And some of them were like I tried it because it's a society, but it didn't work for me. You know so. But then, but if it's okay for them to say ill body, female body parts, I'm trying to keep it pg. You know, ill, ill, ill. Don't get mad at me if I see two guys making out and I go that kind of ill to me, me too.
Carmen Lezeth:Well wait, that's different.
Rick Costa:How is it different?
Carmen Lezeth:That's different, first of all. Well, I'll say it this way, because I'm not asking if it's like public display of affection and people like because you said that earlier, right Like whether it's heterosexual, homosexual, if people are making out at the grocery store, I totally hear you. It's like that's inappropriate, don't do that. But somebody saying you about people who love each other, I think is different than somebody saying, yeah, I would never want to touch somebody's breast because I'm a gay man. I think that's different. But, tony, say that out loud, Right.
Tony D:I love his breasts Okay.
Carmen Lezeth:I love them. Oh God, I'll take them off.
Tony D:I'm sorry.
Carmen Lezeth:I know, but you understand, but you see what I'm saying. Like that, that's a different kind of you, like it's not. Like gay people are not walking around, or men who are not attracted to women are not walking around being like, yeah, women, like they're not. That's just, first of all, it's childish and secondly, it's not the same thing. Look at the reason why I bring this up. Oh, let me just read what Kimmy Callie just said. I have family members that have same-sex partners. I am Christian. I don't treat them any different. I still love them. Whoever wants to sleep with whomever, that's between them and God. Fair enough, okay, I'm going to skip over what some people are saying. So here's what I'll say about. The reason why I brought this up is because I have never seen a show. I'm going to bring it back to the TV show. The reason why I like 9-11 so much and it was Cynthia who introduced me to the show is because it's the first time I've watched the show where being gay was not an issue, but it's in the show. So they don't make it such a large hoopla. It's just part of the storyline.
Carmen Lezeth:Make it such a large hoopla, it's just part of the storyline. So you see a family that has kids and they are having dinner and they love each other, and then they you know, one of the adults in the household has to go to the firehouse because they're a fire person. Do you know what I mean? Like it's just like, oh, it wasn't made. Like let's talk about the gay issue in this scene. You know what I mean? Like let's talk about it and let's make it an issue. It's just like la-di-da-di-da, life goes on and I thought that's where we need to get to, where people can just live their lives and it's not a big deal. And I just thought that was cool. And it's not just one gay family. And like I texted Cynthia, like I texted cynthia today, I'm like is someone so gay? I was so confused because one of the characters met a boyfriend and I was confused by it. So that's what I love about the show.
Cynthia:It's funny because the other show, um, the 911 lone star with rob low. There's also another gay couple, male this time instead of female. There's a transgender, also firefighter, who was born female, became male and now a fireman. And they also deal with Muslim and drugs and stuff like that.
Carmen Lezeth:But it's a periphery right, and I think that's the great stuff about storytelling Can you tell the story of people with them having these characteristics that we just start to accept?
Tony D:you know, and I think that's what I haven't seen Lone Star yet, because I'd have to pay for it, if I may, it seems like they're showing the characters of all different genders, demographics, orientations, living in harmony. That is a plus.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, yeah, I mean, it's not even living in harmony, they're just living Because some of them are not in harmony is what I'm saying.
Tony D:Well, what I'm saying? You got a peaceful side because people have somebody in their life, which is what I was saying earlier. Find somebody to be happy with who feels just as happy with you, and y'all live on fine.
Carmen Lezeth:You know the show. What was the show with? It was such a great show. It was a comic show, will and Grace. Will and Grace remember that show, such a great show. So the lead actor, what is his name?
Rick Costa:I forget his name.
Carmen Lezeth:Which one? I forget his name? Oh, the one will will, so good looking oh my god, I've met him like so many times. Yeah, yeah, um, eric mccormick right, um, right, um. So he is actually heterosexual and this is at a time when this was not a thing like so. He was playing a gay character and he did it brilliantly. He did it brilliantly so much so that the LGBTQ community honored him for how he did it, because he didn't treat it horribly. Jazz hands yeah, that's Sean Hayes, just Sean. What was it?
Ted :Just.
Carmen Lezeth:Jack. He has a great podcast too, right, jack and the other two there have their great show. Karen was my favorite. I here's my favorite was my favorite. I'm sorry, back me up. Karen was amazing, but that show was groundbreaking in that. But but it was all about being gay, not the whole show, but it was a very important theme because we weren't ready for it to just be normal. You know, bobby said I don't think I could have retired at 50 without my soulmate.
Tony D:Big up to you, Bobby.
Carmen Lezeth:I love that. Congratulations on retiring. Dean said he was very acceptable. Yeah, will Eric McCormick. Eric is such a beautiful guy too. He really is a beautiful soul. But anyways, that's a whole other conversation. But yeah, I just look at. I highly recommend 9-1-1. I'm glad we had this conversation. I can't believe we're already at an hour and eight minutes. It's so funny. I feel like we just got started. You know what I'm saying. What else is going on with you guys? I'm not going to cut us off yet. Andrea, cynthia, I feel like you guys need to talk more so I can have some clips to put on Yell or something.
Rick Costa:Be angry or say something.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh I remember that?
Tony D:Yes, I hope that drink come out your nose. Keep it up.
Andrea:That was from the 80s, cagney and Lacey's from the 80s. Go with your time, brah.
Tony D:That's right.
Carmen Lezeth:So, Bobby, why are you saying brah? So much? It kind of loses its flavor. It's Bobby's phrase, I know, but I'm just saying it loses its flavor if you do it every time.
Tony D:That's his thing, bra.
Andrea:It's his new retirement.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia, what about you? What's going on this week for you? Anything, wonderful, great.
Andrea:What was your moment of joy?
Carmen Lezeth:We didn't hear Cynthia's moment.
Andrea:We didn't hear Cynthia's moment of joy.
Cynthia:Yes, so this week actually wasn't too bad. Last week was horrible, but this week wasn't too bad, and today I actually had four interviews with the pathology department.
Carmen Lezeth:Is this in the same hospital, though, where you work? It is. I'm glad you did that. Look at, ted Hicks, I ain't even talking to you, so when do you hear or do you have another interview afterwards? Was it back to back?
Cynthia:Has it been over time? It was all back to back. It literally went from 1230 to three o'clock all day today. Oh my God, it's horrible.
Rick Costa:They all loved you, they loved you.
Cynthia:They were really cool, I mean, they were very, so it was good.
Carmen Lezeth:So now you know you're going to have to give us the update.
Cynthia:What do you find out though?
Carmen Lezeth:I mean that would be cool because, as everyone knows on the show, because it's all about Cynthia. Cynthia wants to work with dead bodies, and so she's been trying to get her foot in the door, and even though we've tried to use some of our connections who have said that they would help you, and they never responded. I ain't going to say names, but we know who it is. What's his name?
Rick Costa:Which one?
Carmen Lezeth:I forgot his name, Mr Ed right.
Rick Costa:Which name? Which one do you want? All these people with multiple names? I don't know what to call anybody anymore.
Carmen Lezeth:People names. Anyway, ed or whoever, whatever his name was he said he was going to help and connect with Cynthia. He never did and I'm going to do something and they don't show up and actually do it. That's bullshit. I can't stand that. But anyway, cynthia, I'm so proud of you and I'm so happy and, whatever happens, I told you in the text today. I was like I just love that you are going to keep pursuing what it is you want to do, no matter what. Absolutely, absolutely, tony, what you got going on. Can you give us some positivity? Just some.
Tony D:I actually thought about it. It's not positive. I will tell you that I actually did get a few medical appointments out the way. But I actually have a new reason to lose weight, because when I went to the dentist a couple days ago, my blood pressure was entirely too high even for my own standards. So I'm going to slow myself down. Actually, I know y'all talking about me grabbing liquor or whatever entirely too high even for my own standards. Um yeah, so I'm gonna slow myself down. Actually, I know y'all talking about me grabbing liquor, whatever.
Tony D:No, I've been drinking a lot of water and trying to cut down on my meals because I didn't even have no coffee that day. But I went to the dentist and my blood pressure was um 177 or 118 and I was like what do you mean? It's 177 or 118? I said I know I'm bored a lot. I've been bored a lot about 30 years. I'm normally like 130, over 90 or something like that. I was like, okay, let me sit down for a minute. So I sat down. Still, I never dropped below 170 for the diet-starting number, which is not good. I know that myself. So I'm just making some changes. I got to drop my weight. I'm at my limit as far as how much I would ever say I would weigh, and now I need to drop about 40 or 40 pounds, which I'll be working on.
Carmen Lezeth:But is it about dropping weight or is it about? I mean, dropping weight is probably important, but isn't it also about what we eat, like you eat?
Tony D:a lot of fast food.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm not trying to be judgy.
Tony D:No, you're fine, You're fine.
Carmen Lezeth:All the time and all that oil.
Tony D:I destroy fast food. But I also know I'm getting older. I'm not eating as much as you all see me, and it might be the second time that day that I eat the coffee can do it too. You know what's crazy, cynthia? I didn't have any that day. Death was bothering me. I did not have any coffee.
Cynthia:So I haven't had coffee in two years and I used to drink coffee every day. Two years without coffee and my blood pressure has gotten definitely gotten a lot.
Carmen Lezeth:We have to end the show right now yeah, I'm sorry, I'm having palpitations and I normally do drink coffee.
Tony D:My blood pressure may be 130 over 90 or something like that. I've gone in, like me, to calm down. When I saw that 177, I said, yeah, let me, let me chill out. Um, I wasn't. I'm not big on the fried foods as much as I used to be. As much as you see me eat, you also know I eat somewhat healthy. I'll get a salad in a minute. I'll get a staple, some vegetables. It's not always fried foods or high sugar foods. Do I do a lot of candy? Yes, but I'm cutting myself down on a lot of. I've definitely cut down on the liquor, more than people realize, because I'll be honest with you, the last time I showed that I had a Crown Royal bottle was the last time I actually had Crown, and that's been about two, three months. I haven't even had as much beer as I normally drink when I don't drink liquor. So to me I know Are you?
Cynthia:drinking right now.
Tony D:No, I'm drinking water right now, honestly, I don't know if. Look, I'm just to say I'm about to hold a camera over the cup look at.
Carmen Lezeth:Do you know what I'm drinking right now? Do you know what this is looks?
Tony D:like milk milk.
Carmen Lezeth:What kind of brown milk do you drink?
Tony D:what is that?
Carmen Lezeth:iced coffee.
Tony D:Is that a white Russian?
Carmen Lezeth:it's iced coffee, ice a white Russian what's sometimes actually this is decaf, but andrea knows, andrea, what do I have in my cabinet? In the kitchen? You were a little bit thrown. I live by myself. Right, I have visitors, but I live by myself in my cabinet when you walk in left hand side. I have like at least minimum 10 different types of coffee.
Tony D:I'm up to see you come. I don't put coffee in the house oh no, I love I.
Carmen Lezeth:But here's the thing I only drink two cups of coffee before 6 am. After that, I don't drink it. Now, this is decaf and it's iced coffee and there's still a little caffeine in it, but I just wanted the flavor.
Tony D:I love coffee. Decaf coffee is blasphemy.
Carmen Lezeth:It's not. I like the flavor. I can't drink caffeine at night because I won't go to sleep.
Tony D:Exactly. I'm going to just mess with me, but I got to do something to correct my blood pressure. I also attribute it to my breathing issues that I've had during allergy season.
Carmen Lezeth:Your what.
Tony D:Breathing issues.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, breathing, I thought you said my bougie issues.
Tony D:I am nowhere near bougie right now, trust me.
Carmen Lezeth:Liquor before beer, never fear.
Tony D:Never fear.
Carmen Lezeth:Ted, you had an invite to come up on the show, so I'm kind of offended that you're over here in the comment section.
Tony D:Ted hasn't even really been broadcasting. He's been busy.
Carmen Lezeth:He's not busy, he'd be lazy. I'm just going to say he can come up for five minutes and say shalom. He can come up for five minutes and say hello, I'm just saying I would do it, for is that normal 6'2" 250? What do you want to be?
Tony D:If it was all muscle. Yes, I've been 6'2", 245. I'm pretty lean with it. I have when I dropped down to 220, I actually got complimented a lot more, so I know it's in my gut. I just got to drop my stomach down.
Carmen Lezeth:How did you feel? Like? What is your goal? To feel good, like I'm miserable. My goal would be there's stairs that we have here that everybody works out on in Santa Monica Beach and I used to be able to go up those five times up and down, up and down and after my surgery. And in the past couple of years it's been like I go up it and I'm like I'm near death because I'm so out of shape. You know what I mean. But now I'm doing so much better now that I got my thyroid thing on point, whatever, so I went up three times today. It was awesome.
Tony D:I got a question for you. All jokes aside, when you go up the stairs and you're exhausted, this is your breathing.
Carmen Lezeth:So let's be clear what we're talking about stairs. We're not talking about regular stairs. We're talking about workout stairs Like they're really.
Tony D:I don't know how to explain it, andrea, because I guess people who don't know what they're steep, and there's a lot of them, it's not?
Carmen Lezeth:like, yeah, and you go up them, and it's a workout.
Carmen Lezeth:You go up them, you go down hundreds of steps, yeah it's not like I can go up regular stairs, that's not a problem, because I had my hip surgery and I had some issues with my thyroid. I got really out of shape and you know, during covid the whole thing is just kind of like. And so I'm trying to get hip surgery and I had some issues with my thyroid. I got really out of shape and during COVID the whole thing is just kind of like, and so trying to get back in shape has been hard because and that's when I knew I was in trouble I couldn't even get up half the stairs. I'm like, oh my God, oh my God.
Tony D:That sounds like a breathing issue. That's what I'm asking, honestly.
Carmen Lezeth:It's a workout, endurance thing.
Andrea:It's like you got to get back in shape. It's like you got to get back in shape.
Carmen Lezeth:It's like an aerobic issue Cardio.
Tony D:An aerobic yeah.
Cynthia:Again, I don't need to be here.
Carmen Lezeth:Andrea's here for me, speaking for me. Thank you very much.
Tony D:Listen to me, I will tell you. I do literally walk about a mile and a half a day just with work alone. I can almost promise you I put away at least two miles a day.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but I put you mean two miles a day.
Tony D:No, by this app I'm responding to the comments that you're going up in there.
Carmen Lezeth:How much do you guys walk a day? Do you guys walk a lot a day? I wear a Fitbit, so I know how much I walk at least a day.
Tony D:I walk a lot and I'm also contorting my body a lot with my job.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, yeah, yeah. I do a lot of Contorting what?
Cynthia:Yeah.
Tony D:Because Because of my job I got to work my way into things and all that. So it sounds a little.
Carmen Lezeth:What is?
Andrea:Ted doing? He's responding to a comment on another show, is he?
Tony D:Who is the ultimate coach for me? Who?
Andrea:is? I think Ted Hicks is.
Rick Costa:Oh, he's saying himself, Ted you need to just come up I emailed you.
Carmen Lezeth:You can come up for five minutes. I will stay on the show for another ten minutes for you to come up and say hi.
Rick Costa:You ain't that busy, he ain't busy.
Carmen Lezeth:He over here talking smack in the comments because he ain't got the huevos to come up in person and say this shit to my face. Wow, rick, can you send him the thing I ate one bowl of Wheaties. Is Wheaties still a thing?
Tony D:Yes, it is.
Carmen Lezeth:Wasn't Bruce Jenner on the cover of Wheaties? Yes, he was. All right, ted, you're going to come up. Somebody send Ted the link. I sent it to him already.
Tony D:Carl, you glitched a little bit.
Carmen Lezeth:I did, I glitched Tell bit I did, I glitched. Tell me I'm paying a lot of money. I'm glitching a lot.
Tony D:You're not the only one. You made it happen to me. I was mad.
Carmen Lezeth:Am I glitching to you, Cynthia? No. I think it's you, babe Just kidding. Thank you for telling me, because these guys they Rick, have you noticed that? They've changed the whole format? They've changed everything. I was using it with Andrea. No, they've changed it, there's email. So, like now, when your guests come on, they're on the right hand side and it's like it's like it's actually better because it's smaller, but you can see each person and and then over here is all the different ways you can put comments up.
Tony D:You can put all this stuff. I haven't played with that yet, but um is ted. Last week I think it was like extreme 2.0 or something like that it did some it's um, it's the ai thing, it's ai something, something good lord.
Carmen Lezeth:so I I want to throw it back to andrea and then I want to talk to Cynthia because I need some more bites so I can put them on the show. Andrea, can we talk a little bit about work? I know we talked a little bit about it before we came online, but where are you at? What's happening and what's going on in the future, and I know what you're excited about?
Andrea:Well, today I came home from my monthly trip out to Iowa. And where am I? Well, today I came home from my monthly trip out to iowa, and so that was my moment of joy getting in my car at the airport and just being like thank god, god, um, and I don't have to go back for at least three months, so they're in a pretty decent way you said, september is september, only three months away.
Carmen Lezeth:No, what are we in june? Yeah, I mean I'd have to start planning it in August, but anyway, so that's what's happening with work. But I am like You're going to Europe in June, which is why we're trying to figure out.
Andrea:Yes, yeah, I'm taking the kids to the UK and Paris and Germany. She's a horrible mother. I just want you to know.
Carmen Lezeth:It's just a horrible thing to do to your children. They have to take that. So that's why we were trying to schedule when we can hang out because it's been such a long time. But I mean, I think that's what's great about friendships, right? Like people always ask me questions and there are times we don't see each other for months or we don't talk all the time. But we're good because when we do hang out it's like it was just yesterday, there's no drama and like I can't believe you didn't call me Tony. We can see you, you're fine. You don't have to apologize, love you.
Tony D:No shoot, Andrea was talking. You just started acting up. I was looking like you.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, you baby. It seems fine, but you're fine here like I haven't seen you glitched at all on our end, so maybe what you're interpreting and it's independent cameras that are glitching. I'm noticing that I think it's on you, it's not us.
Tony D:We all see each other clearly perfectly well I'm gonna watch the replay and see how it looks.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, you do that, baby, but here's what I was gonna say about friendships and relationships in general.
Carmen Lezeth:I think that's kind of the like when I think my great friendships it's not because I talk to them every day or I'm with them every day or I go out to eat with them or see them all the time, it's that when we are together the time is so quality and it doesn't feel like we missed a step. That's the best part of friendship. Now, if I could find that in a man that wasn't needy, that didn't, then it'd be perfect. But but but I love find that in a man that wasn't needy, that didn't, then it'd be perfect, but I love that.
Carmen Lezeth:I think it's the same thing with Cynthia, who actually is my cousin, and Cynthia, I think you and I we just never have any issues. We just we talk when we do and like we might not text for a few days or a few weeks, but then when we do it's fine and we'll do a video chat thing and we laugh for a couple hours and and it's no drama. Is it just with me or is that normal for you guys? I want it to be all about me. I'm the common denominator here, I think, because I'm me. Don't you think that all my relationships that are important to me are like that. They're not high drama, and if they are, I cut them. So I'm curious for both of you, andrea and Cynthia. Andrea to go first how is?
Andrea:it for you. Yeah, that's kind of a requirement for me because, as you know, I'm a bit of a flake right, so I need people who aren't going to be you know dramatic how you doing baby.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm so glad you came up for a few minutes.
Ted :I missed the email. I'm sorry.
Carmen Lezeth:You don't have to be sorry. I always send you an email but I never pressure you by then tagging you or texting you, because I just assume if you want to come on, you'll come on. I'm going to let Andrea finish her.
Ted :Yes, Andrea, I'm so sorry. Tell us about how you are.
Andrea:No, I was just agreeing with you that it's is going to be upset and, have you know, bring a bunch of drama about how often we're talking or you know all those kinds of things, or make it feel like you know I need to give them some kind of special attention. That's, that's just. I can't really do that. You know what I mean? Too much work, yeah, like it's gotta be easy. Yeah, cynthia, what about?
Cynthia:you, um, but the same way. I mean um. Like me and my friends, we don't talk every day, we barely talk once a month. But when we do talk, you know it's quality time. Um, same with my, my sisters, every time. So I'll get into a little argument, or there's a bunch of drama in their lives and we won't talk for a couple of weeks, but then when we get back together it's all good that's after you've had therapy with me because I have to hear about the drama with your sisters, right, right.
Carmen Lezeth:And it's so funny because, since they're so cute, she's like I. I hate them, I don't want to talk to them, and then I'm like you love them.
Cynthia:You're gonna talk to them.
Carmen Lezeth:It's big. It's okay, that's what family does. But, um, since ted is in the house, baby, how you doing? What's going on? Where have you been? Where is late night? Parents, give us, us the school.
Ted :We're coming up next. Once you release Tony from his engagement, he can then come on and jump on with us, and all of you guys are invited always.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but Ted, you're so putting that on me. You have not been on for weeks. Don't do that, my brother. Where have you been? I know you're busy with work and stuff, but come on, don't put that on me. I'm not keeping Tony. He can leave at any motherfucking time. You know that's true. We love him.
Ted :Tony feels obligated. We talk about it all the time, about this show and how late-night parents is here. All about the joyous.
Cynthia:I know, tony seems happier over here than he does over on your show.
Rick Costa:I mean we are on a regular basis, as opposed to other people's shows, just saying.
Cynthia:Oh right.
Ted :Ah, okay, got it, but no, just enjoying life day by day and just daytime work and other projects I'm working on and it's not enough time in a day, you know. So I don't know how you do it, carmen, with the multiple projects and everything. That's a discussion we're going to have offline.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, I'll tell you quickly. I think this is the only thing that gives me. You know, andrea knows this there is no happiness in my job. You know what I mean. So the reason why I do this is because I think it keeps me sane.
Carmen Lezeth:I like doing this and doing the clips. I'll stay up until 3 in the morning and do them so that the social media can go out, or whatever. I think it's what fuels me. I would not work if I had enough money, if you would give me money, because I know you have a big trust fund.
Carmen Lezeth:If you would give me money, I would not work and I'd only work on this. You're so cheap. You know what I cheap, ted, but yeah, that's the only reason why I do it. But I'm not married either with kids. Remember that Kids and green kids.
Carmen Lezeth:That's the problem, not problem, that's your joy, but I'm saying that's why I have what we would make. I'm not going to call it extra time, because I made my decisions, you made yours. You know what I mean. But what people don't understand is when you don't have children and you don't have those responsibilities, there is a different allotment of time that's allowed for me to do this other thing. You know what I mean.
Ted :Yeah, true, so but it's, it's good, it's you guys do what you guys with your continuity. It really it's really good for me because I get to watch you guys, um, you know, either as I'm commuting on the train in the morning or just listening to the pod.
Carmen Lezeth:I appreciate you supporting us so much. I do. When I have more time I'm going to update the website and have some swag and whatever. Hopefully we can move forward. It's just been a crazy time. Trust me, I understand, but we miss you. We love having you on. I send you a link every week. I send you a link every week. I look at I send a lot of people the link every week because I think if you want to come on, you can come on. I'm never going to pressure people.
Ted :Right.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what I mean. It's a neighborhood hangout. You stop by. You know what I mean. You stop by whenever you want. So there's no pressure, Ted, I'm just messing with you, you know.
Cynthia:But, while your audio podcast with the trip that you went on, fantastic I felt like I was there.
Ted :Oh really, I did. I mean I actually pulled up and looked up the um the hotel you were at. I was just like really, right, I'm like wow and I'm sitting there looking at, you know, and it's like three stars or three and a half stars or four stars, whatever like that, and I was like really, so that was helpful, that's.
Carmen Lezeth:Barcelo Hotel. Never stay at any Barcelo Hotel ever. Right. But yeah, thank you for saying that. I appreciate it. Again. I'm not.
Carmen Lezeth:I know people get upset when I talk about this, but for me I'm in awe of it. We have over 550 followers on LinkedIn and I don't know if any of you know it's hard to get LinkedIn people to. That's on the live stream, that's on the. You know what I mean. That's pretty cool and the podcast is crazy cool. Like I have so many followers and I'm shook by it and I kind of like it. Like I don't have like millions of followers or anything but for our little thing that we're just doing this. It's kind of cool. So, and and I know we have regular fall I was telling rick the other day.
Carmen Lezeth:I said, rick, I have to post it at 3 am my time on sundays, because if I don't, there are two people no matter what every sunday morning when I get up at like six o'clock in the morning, that have already listened to the show. Like, so for them, I make sure it is posted at 3 am, because I'm sure they're on the east coast listening to it, you know. So I kind of love that, you know. So thank you for your support. I appreciate you.
Ted :No, no, no. And just you guys are making an impact in people's lives. I don't know if it's positive or negative with tonight's topic.
Carmen Lezeth:Because we were talking about penises.
Rick Costa:Oh boy, here we go.
Carmen Lezeth:It is part of the anatomy, Mr X.
Ted :Yes, I know, I know, but I was cringing in the background seeing Tony just kind of. You know he's ducking and dodging and he's trying to answer it. He's thinking about all the people that are on LinkedIn, that are connected to his LinkedIn. I'm like Tony. No, no, no.
Tony D:I just saw those messages. I just saw those messages. What messages? Oh no, I just saw those messages.
Carmen Lezeth:What messages? Oh no, I'm sorry.
Tony D:We're chatting in the back. No, you're fine, we were chatting in the back.
Carmen Lezeth:It's a neighborhood chat. We're going to talk about whatever's going on. No, it was good.
Ted :It was fun. It's good to have those type of discussions. I think they're just needed between men and women.
Carmen Lezeth:You do need to do a girl show. You do. We do need to do a girl show. Here's the thing I think the I'm trying to look at trends. I'm trying to learn more about the background part of learning about my show. Right, so what I'm noticing is, whenever we talk about relationships, we have a really higher margin, but I also think it's because it's a much more fun topic for everyone to talk about relationship. I don't want to make the all about the joy, all about relationships, all the time, but and and I don't want to have shows that are always about negativity and fighting and argument Like that's not what all about the joy is. But I'm also starting to understand people like to listen to on the podcast things that matter to them and things that matter to them, and I think we all care about relationships. We all care about loving our lives. We all care about joy, happiness and how we can bring that into our lives more, and I think if this show can be a little catalyst for that, I'm all for it, you know.
Rick Costa:And we all have relationships.
Ted :Two last comments. Two last comments you have two different audiences your audio and your two totally different audiences. You got to keep that in mind yeah, for sure.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, that's why I spent so much time editing the podcast, why we needed tony to have cynthia stop by and drop off his mic, because it really helps. But you said two comments, go ahead.
Ted :I'm sorry oh, and the second one was I was waiting for you guys to say your highest rated shows when we did the collab shows listen.
Carmen Lezeth:There's no doubt, I'm gonna tell you this for sure, there is no doubt, when we have a lot of people on the show, I get a lot of high uh audio, the audio especially for some, and I would think that'd be confusing to listen to all these different people. But people like that, people like when there's a lot of people.
Carmen Lezeth:The banter the the other highest. Uh watch, uh listen to show on. The podcast is still my goddaughter and me on. I think we were 18 minutes or something. Yes, it was, like you know, talking to a gen z person about living with the hellish parents or whatever, yes, that's still way up there. And then this Barcelo hotel thing seems to have ticked the nerve but, I posted it.
Ted :No pun intended, but grown legs.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, right, yeah.
Rick Costa:So just itching to hear about it. People are waiting to hear about it, you know here's the thing.
Ted :We were talking about it in the chat and I was like well, what happened? What happened? And some some unknown people were like hey, this is what happened. And I was like, well, where is it?
Carmen Lezeth:And so the unknown people were like yeah, listen, I just want the show to still be as organic as possible, so I don't want to force ourselves to do anything. I'm just trying to force ourselves to do anything. I'm just trying to learn more about trends. Trying to learn more about because I told you, I'll have a three-year plan and what I would like to do is knock out one of my clients, which I have to be careful of, because now I realize all my clients know about my show and they also listen, which is kind of cool.
Carmen Lezeth:And you don't mean physically knock out, you mean remove but I would really like to be able to supplement in some way, shape or form, a legit little bit of income from this, if at all possible, and also pay some people for the work that they do. That. You know, rick and Tony being on the show is really helpful. I'd love to give them a little cash, cynthia and Andrea, but then I'm just saying I mean it would be great, be great, you know to be able to do something, um, in a more professional manner, and there's so many people doing content creation that I really encourage everyone anyone who's listening to the show there is a new world out there to be able to make money using the internet and using content creation using all social media. It's a lot of work, but it can be done, can?
Rick Costa:be done.
Carmen Lezeth:So I love that you came on, ted. Thank you so much. Oh, please, I'm glad you were here I'm up.
Ted :I wasn't asleep, I wasn't working, so here's the last thing. You had emailed me last week and you mentioned you were in the office early and I was extremely busy, but I wanted to text you back that, hey, I were in the office early and I was, so I was extremely busy, but I wanted to text you back that, hey, I'm in the office. I was in the office. 4 am your time.
Carmen Lezeth:Which you know, I'm awake at four. That's not a problem, but go ahead.
Ted :Oh, oh yeah, I just didn't want to be that type of person to send that message and burn, and then you jump up and you like cursing me out.
Carmen Lezeth:I would never. So to anyone who doesn't know, I usually get up at four 30 Pacific time because I have also clients I have to deal with in other countries, so me answering emails as quickly as possible matters. But also I'm a morning person. Unfortunately, most of my friends are not. I won't talk about anyone in the room. No one in the room at all. I don't mean anyone in the room, but I'm up at.
Carmen Lezeth:I've always been a morning person. I'm not a nighttime person, which was weird when I was younger, because we would always go to the clubs and I don't know about when you guys were growing up, but people started getting ready at like nine and 10 o'clock to go to the clubs and I'd be like, oh my God, I just want to go to sleep. I can't be ready to go to bed. So, yeah, you could have texted me, and even if you text me and I'm not awake or whatever I would, I would get it at like six or 7. Cause that's when my phone turns on anyway, like I don't have my phone on. But yeah, you're going to text me back.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't mind, I'll, you're not going to wake me up or anything?
Ted :I know now, I know now.
Carmen Lezeth:But I don't get mad at you when you don't respond, I get you. You respond when you need to and if it's an emergency, I know you will respond, because I'll say really important, please respond. But we're good, you're not feeling bad, are you? No, you're just telling me. Ok, yeah, I'm just telling you. I miss you too, Are you going to go on?
Ted :now we're on the same page. Come on, we're family. Thank you for your appreciation of X-Men 97,. By the way, I just had to throw that in there.
Carmen Lezeth:Someone's got to on this panel. Everyone else is like they all love. Look at me and Andrea, the only people who don't give a shit about X-Men. Blah, blah, blah. Whatever, Okay, is your show coming on right now?
Tony D:Tony are we coming on live? It's going to be quick if I get up there.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, let's do it quick. All right, look it. Hey everyone, thank you for stopping by and listening to All About the Joy. I appreciate everyone here Andrea, rick, tony, cynthia, ted. Thank you for stopping by. Remember it's All About the Joy and thank you everyone for stopping by. We'll see you next week. Thanks for stopping by. All about the joy. Be better and stay beautiful. Folks. Have a sweet day.