All About The Joy
All About The Joy is a weekly hang-out with friends in the neighborhood! We share insight, advice, funny-isms and we choose to always try and find the positive, the silver lining, the "light" in all of it. AATJ comes from the simple concept that at the end of the day we all want to have more JOY than not. So, this is a cool place to unwind, have a laugh and share some time with friends!
All About The Joy
The Art of Friendship, Celebrating Milestones, Overcoming Hardships and Toxicity
What happens when a close-knit community loses one of its own in a tragic accident? This episode starts on a somber note as we share the heartbreaking news about Lindsey Badger from HAPPS, who was taken from us in a hit-and-run incident. Her husband is currently on a ventilator, while their children miraculously survived. We urge our listeners to contribute to the GoFundMe page set up in Lindsey's memory, reinforcing the importance of community support during such devastating times. As we navigate through this, we also find solace in expressing our gratitude for Melanie, whose consistent participation brings a spark of joy to our challenging week.
Ever had a week where everything seems to go wrong? From technical glitches in podcast production to medication mix-ups in caregiving, this episode offers a candid look into the chaos of everyday life. We share humorous anecdotes about volume issues and editing woes, giving a behind-the-scenes glimpse into what makes our podcast tick. Additionally, we engage in meaningful listener interactions that underline the importance of understanding and communication. These stories not only highlight the camaraderie within our podcast community but also remind us that we're all in this together, facing similar struggles and triumphs.
Celebrating milestones and reflecting on the intricate dynamics of friendships, we cover a lot of ground. We also discuss the painful end of long-term friendships, sharing personal stories and insights into maintaining relationships over time and distance. The necessity of distancing from toxic influences and the importance of reciprocity, authenticity, and joy in fostering genuine connections are key themes.
Wrapping up, Carmen shares a quick lesson the differences between Race, Ethnicity and Nationality and encourages others to Google and understand why Vice President Harris can be both Asian and Black, referring to the controversy this past week in the world of Politics.
Lastly, we express heartfelt gratitude to our listeners and emphasize the importance of joy in our lives, inviting everyone to join us again next week for more engaging conversations.
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Music By Geovane Bruno, Moments, 3481
Editing by Team A-J
Host, Carmen Lezeth
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Okay, I'm in a bad mood now. I was in a good mood. I was, and now I'm in a bad mood. Hi, Rich.
Rick Costa:It's all about the joy time.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm like, I'm so annoyed yeah, it's all about the joy, blah, blah blah. Welcome everybody, so glad you're here. Hopefully nobody will show up because I don't even feel like doing this today. I didn't post anything all week. I'm like I'm just having a time of it. I'm done with everybody Done. I hear you, but you said you had good, joyful noise.
Rick Costa:Yeah, noise news, it's all good, it's all good.
Carmen Lezeth:So I will let you do the show. Go ahead, there's a lot.
Rick Costa:It's actually a lot. Did you do it?
Carmen Lezeth:on your show. Did you talk about it on your show?
Rick Costa:I think more or less Mr Dawson and Bill, and Joyful, joyful.
Carmen Lezeth:Hey, mario. Mario, did I send you a link? I don't even know if I sent you a link, because I'm in such a bad space. I'm sorry if I didn't. I think I did, but I'm in such a bad space I'm sorry if I didn't.
Rick Costa:I think I did, but you don't have to come on, I'm just saying. But if you want to, no, tony's too busy.
Carmen Lezeth:Hi, melanie. Melanie's the only one who makes me happy because she's reliable. Melanie, thank you for always being reliable. Thank you, I appreciate you so much. Not like these other jokers.
Rick Costa:Okay, thank you, I appreciate you so much, Not like these other jokers. Okay, so there actually is one piece of not so great news and I just want to make sure people know this. So some people that maybe we used to watch this on HAPS there was somebody that used to broadcast on there as well that unfortunately, we just got the news that she passed.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh wait, do I know this person?
Rick Costa:Oh, I don't know if you remember her, but she was definitely up there quite a bit on HAPS.
Carmen Lezeth:Are you going to share the person's name?
Rick Costa:Yeah, she was known as Badger. I also have a GoFundMe. Do you think I should post that?
Carmen Lezeth:You can post it. I don't mind that at all.
Rick Costa:She and her family were in the car.
Carmen Lezeth:Melanie, thank you. Something's wrong with your volume, Rick.
Rick Costa:Me.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick, your volume sounds low. It's low, I hear you fine here, but then when I go to edit that's how my week started People want to know why I didn't post anything this week. It's because, hi, alma, ooh Alma, I need your direct email.
Rick Costa:Ooh, you got a new picture. I need your direct email. Oh, you got a new picture.
Carmen Lezeth:I need your direct email so I can send you emails. To come on the show without your husband.
Cynthia Ruiz :No.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just kidding, that was so mean. Anyways, yeah, hi Alma, hi Alma.
Rick Costa:I like your picture Alma, that's nice.
Carmen Lezeth:I think I have that picture up on our site now. Oh, not on the site now. Oh, not on the site, not on the live site. Never mind, never, okay, okay.
Rick Costa:So badger was on haps and yeah, she did artwork basically, and lindsey was her actual name, lindsey badger maybe if I saw her.
Carmen Lezeth:Thing yeah, you're gonna put up the gofundme page, the gofundme thing yeah, and there's a picture on there so her name was lindsey lindsey badger I think here's the last name too.
Rick Costa:I don't know why YouTube is taking forever for the chat box to come up. Oh, there it goes.
Carmen Lezeth:Why don't you do it on the private and then I can put it up? Hi, dana D.
Rick Costa:Oops, that's too long, hold on.
Carmen Lezeth:Did you put it in the private chat and then I can. You'd rather. I can try to. I'm not saying I'll be able to do it, but I'm going to do my best, because you know I do my best. But if people want to contribute to the GoFundMe page, is this for her family?
Rick Costa:Yes, because obviously this was very unexpected. She was young. There we go, and so what happened was her and her family. It was her husband, husband or two kids. They were in the car, hey Dana, and a guy blew through a stop sign, going 80 miles an hour at a 20 mile an hour zone. She was killed on impact. Husband ended up on a ventilator, but I think he's doing better. Kids were okay, thank God. And when the boy woke up he didn't know anything. He was like what's going on? And they had to say your mom died and he was devastated, of course. So it's just really sad. Oh, and the guy it was a hit and run, he left. I'm like, are you kidding me? But they found him, they caught him. He's going to get charged with manslaughter. Yeah, it's just really sad. She was so young.
Carmen Lezeth:So the GoFundMe, I just put it in the chat.
Rick Costa:How did it come up on YouTube?
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, because I think we have that thing where it sends messages to oh, so my message goes to everybody. Oh, that's cool.
Rick Costa:Most of them, yeah, okay, and it's also in the ticker below.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't remember the person, but still that's a horrible thing to happen. If we can help another person, but still that's a horrible thing to happen. If we can help another person, a cyber neighbor, that would be really nice and they were one of the artists on the site.
Rick Costa:Yeah, she would do artwork all the time.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, yeah, so I'm all cool with helping people best way we can, any way we can, for people listening in the audio. It's gofundme forward slash 7728C518 if that helps in the future. Okay, so that's sad, terrible news. Yeah, you were supposed to be lifting me up and somehow.
Rick Costa:I just wanted to get that out of the way first. Hello, Gene Dawson.
Carmen Lezeth:Hi Gene Dawson.
Rick Costa:Exactly. Rest in peace badges.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, rest in peace, tony remembers her.
Rick Costa:Yeah, I talked to him already about it. So anyway, yeah, if you can help the family, that'd be awesome better news now. All the rest of it's gonna be really good. Update on my leg because remember I was up along cassidy for a while from the wasp attack today. Today is the first day I did not use the cane at all, so you were using the cane the whole time.
Rick Costa:Until yesterday yep, yesterday, part of the day I didn't use it, but today is the first day I absolutely did not use the cane at all. So, yay, I'm getting better, a little better. Still have to be really careful. It can hurt if I twist it a little bit, weird. But yeah so I'm on the mend, so that's another good thing. Okay, weird, but yeah, so I'm on the mend, so that's another good thing.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, all right. So another piece of news now this I'm really glad that you're on the mend. It's just been a really ridiculously funny not so funny story I'm just saying not the wasp attack not the wasp attack. Oh, you're mario's mom hi mario's mom oh, no way, hi, I think we met at. Wait a minute, we did meet, because I was at the shower for Alma before Marissa was born. Hi, ms Dawson, that is so cool. I'm sure you remember me. I'm sure I'm just kidding.
Rick Costa:You raised an amazing son. Thumbs up to you.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, and a great granddaughter.
Rick Costa:Yeah, so that is good. And then this was bad, but then good. So mom was acting really extra for a while there and I was like I don't understand why she's so mean to me. This is too much what is happening. Did she have a stroke and personality change? I couldn't get it. Then it dawned on me when I was doing her pills for the week. I was like, wait a minute, I'm missing one of the pills and I forgot that. I called the pharmacy, called the doctor, and nobody ever got back to me. So I called the doctor again and looked up what the medicine was. It was for depression, anxiety, all that kind of stuff, and from day one of picking up that medicine, night and day, drastic change, so it was your fault.
Rick Costa:It was my fault.
Carmen Lezeth:You're trying to put it on your mama and it's your fault. It was my fault For people who don't know, rick is a caretaker, caretaker.
Cynthia Ruiz :I'm a caretaker.
Rick Costa:Because, I was going to give the ticker Care star tricker.
Carmen Lezeth:Hey Tony. Thanks See, LinkedIn is working now. Thank you, Tony.
Rick Costa:Awesome.
Carmen Lezeth:Why is Mario saying hi again? He's saying hi to his mama, Probably. Yeah, you know what I'm just going to. I don't know if he wants to come online. I don't know what he wants. I don't know what Mario needs.
Rick Costa:Tony says does this thing work? Yes, tony it works, it works.
Carmen Lezeth:So you messed up, you put your mother through torture, you tried to blame her for what was your fault, and now she's better again. So that's what I heard there.
Cynthia Ruiz :Sure.
Carmen Lezeth:Alma just said oh, no, I know you were confused. What's happening?
Rick Costa:He's at her house. He's at his mom's house.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, I'm at her house and it's a lot of noise.
Rick Costa:Tell everyone to calm down and just watch the show. I'm just kidding, we are the hottest podcast out there, I'm just saying it was so funny.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, so here's my thing I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining.
Cynthia Ruiz :I am venting though.
Carmen Lezeth:Now I you know what. I got a couple of, uh, direct messages from people and, um, somebody was mad at me because of the last episode I posted. By the way, I posted a last episode and I didn't even promote it at all, okay, and all I was doing was it was an extension from last week's conversation we had, because last week's conversation went on too long. Wait, rick, did you fix your mic so that the volume is up?
Rick Costa:The problem I was having has not happened since. I looked up how to fix it and I did it, and it hasn't happened since.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but I trust Melanie. Melanie said you were low.
Rick Costa:But what about on your thingy? You can't see my levels. No, I can hear you fine.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just worried about the recording because-.
Rick Costa:Well, if it's only me, then maybe it should be easier, hopefully, to jack me up a little bit.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know. You know what I'm going to make you edit an episode. I can't believe. You just said that. If it's only me, okay, let me do the process, so you understand? Okay. Okay, you pull down the recording. Okay, everyone needs to understand that rick has been doing this for eight years, non-stop, right, is it eight years? Over eight years and he does it every day. I do this once a week, but the difference, she said it's still low what about everybody else, is it?
Rick Costa:you hear me though? She would say, carmen, you're low, yeah, but your voice is like a higher pitch, so it's easier to hear you.
Carmen Lezeth:He was trying to say I'm allowed, no, I'm being scientific.
Rick Costa:No, I'm being scientific. It's true, lower voices are harder to hear than higher voices, that's a scientific fact.
Carmen Lezeth:You're not Tony and we've never had this problem with you in the past. Hey, can everyone else hear Rick, Tony, can you hear Rick? Fine, on your end.
Rick Costa:Tony, can you hear me? This is why Tony talks. Tony talks like this.
Carmen Lezeth:Tony doesn't talk like that, because if he did, we could hear him. He's like Loud and clear. Hey, Tony said loud and clear on my end. Okay, tony, greatanie said eight and three quarter. You oh, look at melanie on point, you're keeping track oh yeah, she's just riding down melanie tony just said he can hear rick fine on his end. So I don't know. But thank you for saying that mr dawson can hear me too he can hear you fine too.
Carmen Lezeth:okay, my volume is all the way up. You know what, melanie? I'm on team Melanie. I believe it's Rick's fault, but here's what's going to happen. Let me explain something. So the difference between what me and Rick do is simply, first of all, I have a guest, or I have guests on the show, and then the other part of this is I actually download it.
Rick Costa:I edit, put it on.
Carmen Lezeth:Carmen is fine, that's the end of the sentence. Carmen is fine, you got to say it right, carmen is fine, rick is low.
Carmen Lezeth:Cynthia said she's on her way. She said sorry, she must've been sleeping or whatever. So let me finish what it is that I do. So I download the audio and the video and I edit it, but when I can't hear somebody or this cross talking, I have to download not just the entire thing, I have to download each individual track, right. So I have my voice, only Rick's voice, only Tony's book. It depends on how many people, and last week, not only did it go way over an hour, I forget how long it was, but I couldn't hear Rick, I could barely hear Tony, and I was so mad because I thought it was a really good episode, but you couldn't hear it. So it was just too much work.
Rick Costa:Can I get closer to my microphone? I can jack my microphone all the way up if you want to. Here it's all the way up now.
Carmen Lezeth:What an attitude. It's all the way up now, melanie. Hello, sleeping Beauty, what?
Cynthia Ruiz :happened. I actually fell asleep on the couch.
Carmen Lezeth:Didn't I say Okay, here's me, I'm texting everybody. I'm like, are you coming on this show? I know I said it was fine. Okay, here's me. I'm texting everybody. I'm like, are you coming on this show? Like by myself, I know I said it was fine, but I think I'm gonna cancel. And then when rick came on, I'm like I think I'm just gonna cancel. He's I'm on, let's go, let's go. Rick comes on one minute before now because he knows you're on the show all the time.
Rick Costa:It's not just that. It's not just that, it's because I'm trying to get mom to bed and I do everything I can to hurry it up, but you can't rush dementia.
Carmen Lezeth:I think if you told her kindly. You know what. Carmen, who's your familia, from Portugal, has a show with kids.
Cynthia Ruiz :That's true.
Carmen Lezeth:I need you to calm down and go rest so that I can be on the show Wait let me say hi, who's her mother, who's her father, who's her family? I'll be like, oh, so scary. How are you, Cynthia? Welcome to the show. Better Than Never. What's up, girl? How you doing? I'm good, I'm good.
Cynthia Ruiz :Did I wake you up? Yeah, I know it was funny, because I like took a quick little nap around eight o'clock. I was like, let me just stay for like a half hour or whatever, and once aren't you supposed to be on the show.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm like, oh my God, I jumped up and today I had a little bit of a panic attack because nobody was showing up and I was like all of them said they'd be on, like everybody was like, okay, great, yes. And I'm like, oh my God, so I'm going to make rules now. No, I'm just kidding, but I did freak out a little bit, but I'm just having a time of it. I was telling Rick I didn't post anything this week. I posted some stuff this week, but I didn't post anything about the show this week because I didn't edit it. So anyway, let me finish.
Carmen Lezeth:I have to download all these separate tracks and then I have to edit them separately and it's just so time consuming. I also don't like doing it like I assume people who are editors love editing. I'm like I hate it and I hate it more and more every day. I thought by now I'd be like faster at it and love it or whatever, but then it just becomes this thing. And this past week I was like you know what? I'm not, I'm just done. I'm'm not, I'm just done, I'm not doing it, I'm just one week. I'm not doing it. I'm not sending out any socials, I'm not going to do anything. Let's see what happens. The show's going to falter, it's going to be over, there'll be no more. All about the joy. But then I did a little podcast myself, which was just an extension of what we had. It went fine. It actually got just as many listens.
Rick Costa:So that was cool, because I guess you have your regular hey darcy, shout out to dark darcy's the one with the new book out right, yep put your book in the chat so people can go check it out. Is it out today or no, tuesday, I think it gets released out on tuesday, darcy, put your book.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't even know what it's about, but see, I'm trusting my regular people got good stuff. So if she has a website, I thought she had a website or something.
Rick Costa:I don't know if it's ready for the public.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, I thought you were promoting it on your show. That's how I knew.
Rick Costa:Yeah, we're gonna be talking about it on Saturday, yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh okay. So on Saturday, if you want to go to Rick's show, oh okay, darcy, go ahead. Rick, what's your show on Saturday? Is that with all the other pastor people?
Rick Costa:I say it respectfully, because I don't know, it's just going to be me and Darcy, and if her husband wants to join, he'll be there too.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, you're having like a private show with just Darcy yeah.
Rick Costa:Yeah, and her husband if he wants to be there. It's her life story basically. Oh it's a memoir.
Carmen Lezeth:It's like my book. Oh Darcy, oh okay. So Darcy's going to be on Rick Costa's show on Saturday. At what time?
Rick Costa:So 1 pm your time, 4 pm Eastern time.
Carmen Lezeth:So my time is PST Pacific for those listening on the audio Rick.
Rick Costa:Yes, ma'am audio.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick and Darcy's website is wwwdarcyhafercom. Let me spell that out D-A-R-C-I-H-A-Y-F-O-R-Dcom. Go there, check her out, figure out what's going on with Darcy, who's cool, always coming on my show and hanging out and check out her book. That's going to with Darcy, who's cool, always coming on my show and hanging out and check out her book. That's going to be available on Tuesday, august 6th.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, that was nice of me, because I don't even know Darcy but I'm going to read her book because I'm all about the memoirs man. All about the memoirs, okay, cool. Yeah, writing a book is a thing, that's right. Alma just said congratulations, darcy. It's true, writing a book is a thing, that's right. Alma just said congratulations, darcy. It's true, writing a book is a thing. I'm trying to write the second one to Canela, and let me tell you, it's hard, especially when you're working full time and everything. Is this Darcy's first book or is it like her third or fourth?
Rick Costa:I think it's the first one. I think yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:And it's her memoir. Oh, so good, I'm so excited. Okay, I'm going to read it, I'm going to buy it. I'm a buy it, I'm a read it, girl. Okay, so I got to. Oh, darcy just said thank you, that was very sweet. I talk about a lot of intense thing. That just made me more interested, okay. So I got a couple of DMS this weekend and, listen, I have a right to talk about whatever I want to talk about on my show. I'm just saying this as a thing to everyone. Rick talks about whatever he wants to talk about on his show. Cynthia talks about whatever she wants on her imaginary show.
Carmen Lezeth:And here's the thing people can bring up whatever they want. I only have two rules. Oh wait, mr Dawson just said that Alma is working on an erotica novel.
Rick Costa:Oh, my Okay.
Carmen Lezeth:And I know Alma, know alma, that's gonna be good. Now, mario, did alma want you to put that out there right now? I'm just saying like, maybe it's gonna be like a rollout that she wants to do. I don't know, that's husband, wife, they're pretty close. She wouldn't do it if she didn't want it, although wouldn't it be interesting if she did?
Carmen Lezeth:it somebody's in the dark house we're making up stories now about who they fight and I think they're getting divorced. It's not like a whole thing um so here's what I want to say the only rules I have on my show that I usually break, and I can't break them because it's my show.
Carmen Lezeth:Is this we try not to talk. Is this we try not to talk about religion and we try not to talk about politics. I've changed the wording to try. I always say don't, but when there's something in the news, we're going to talk about it. Here's the thing. If I choose to change my mind, it's my show.
Rick Costa:That's right.
Carmen Lezeth:No one is forcing you to stay here. On the one hand, I have people who want people say they will come on the show. People I love will come on the show if I talk about politics and I'm like I don't want you. There's so many, create your own show. You don't even have to create a show people, you can just go live. You can go live on Facebook. You don't have to buy anything whatever. If you have a Facebook page or you have a YouTube, you can. Oh, but on YouTube I think you have to have a certain amount of followers or something.
Carmen Lezeth:I think you can do it from your phone regardless, but if you do it, what I'm saying is you don't have to find other people who are having shows to complain, and I feel like everybody is finding reasons to complain all the time. So that was one of the DMs I got, and then the other one was somebody was like you're so pretty, why do you always look so ugly on your show? I was like what I know.
Carmen Lezeth:I was like wow, here's the thing, I know this person. This wasn't like a spam thing or whatever and I didn't even answer that because I was like, wow, that is the weirdest thing. So I only look pretty if I wear makeup. Does that make sense? I want everyone to think about that for a moment. So women look pretty if they wear makeup, but if they don't wear makeup, they're not pretty. That's corny, totally corny. So I'm no longer friends with that person. Blocked, blocked. I thought it was mean and cruel. You know what I mean? I feel like Cynthia's going to say something or she's just waking up. No, no, no. How was your week, cynthia?
Cynthia Ruiz :At your new job, week five. Yes, it's been very busy, oh, but in a good way in a good way.
Carmen Lezeth:In a good way, okay, I know, because it seemed not, but in a good way. In a good way, in a good way, okay, I know, because it seemed not really in a good way. Good way, good way.
Cynthia Ruiz :No, no, it's in a good way, because I'm learning more things now.
Carmen Lezeth:Any gossip with your husband, anything juicy, anything you want to reveal.
Cynthia Ruiz :No.
Carmen Lezeth:Nothing, no, nothing, nothing, rick, anything else Nothing, I guess we're going to be done.
Rick Costa:Yes, yes, yes, I got more. I'm going to do a little teaching lesson in a moment.
Carmen Lezeth:That's why I don't want to bore people right now. So while there's a nice audience, let's give them joy.
Rick Costa:So I think I might have mentioned I'm not sure if I did or not that my son had to do a test for his physical therapy license for. Connecticut. He's already a doctor, right, you still have to do the test to be official in.
Carmen Lezeth:Connecticut. It's like a lawyer.
Rick Costa:You finish?
Carmen Lezeth:law school and then you have to get the LSATs or whatever. Oh, okay, we're going to get to Darcy in a minute. Go ahead. So he took the test. He passed.
Rick Costa:He passed. He was so happy. And then today that was yesterday I found out on my broadcast and I was, of course, screaming on my broadcast. And then today, my niece, my brother's daughter, she just got promoted to the nursing job that she wanted. I was like, let's go with the young costas, let's go.
Carmen Lezeth:Come on, that's so good. Mario just said let's set it off. What does that? Mean, I don't know Well, read what Darcy wrote. Okay, no, I'm going to Darcy. Me and my so-called best friend split yesterday. Ooh, I will never befriend her again, rest. Ooh, is that in the book? No, it happened yesterday.
Cynthia Ruiz :Yeah, that'll be a part two.
Carmen Lezeth:Ooh, darcy, okay. So on the one hand, I must say I'm sorry because she said so-called best friend that means they were best friends. That's hard, that's hard, that's hard. I will say this, and I hope Mia is not listening. So Mia is one of my best friends. We went to college together. We lived together in college. Yep, mia and I had the same thing. It happens. It happens.
Carmen Lezeth:Mia and I didn't talk for seven months, which was weird. We were just done with each other. And I was done with her because she was dating somebody I didn't like. And I am that person. I'm that person. I will tell you I do not like this person, but I knew this wasn't just somebody. She was dating Like he had already met her parents, like I knew she always wanted to get married. I was afraid and so I was like no, this is not working. And we connected again because she dumped his ass after whatever not me, many people, whatever and we're still best friends today. So you never know what can happen, but I'm really sorry about that. It's a 20 year friendship. That's terrible. Mario said, when I say let's set it off, it means let's go whoop, whoop their butt because nobody talks about my friend. Yeah, I think friendships are hard, though. I'm always shocked by what friends think they can get away with, and that's when you really know they're not really a friend.
Rick Costa:Yep, it's true.
Carmen Lezeth:And sometimes it really hurts because you think somebody's your friend and you can't see what you can't see because you're so in it. And sometimes it really hurts because you think somebody's your friend and then and you can't see what you can't see because you're so in it, and then other people will tell you things. The same thing with Mia. Like we were all telling I met the man. I was like uh-uh, I'm in his face. You can already tell what I did. You know what I mean? I don't even have to explain it because you can feel the energy. But she couldn't see it and it wasn't just me, it was all of her friends. And then we had to just let it be. And then she figured it out. And whenever I bring it up and I'm sure if she's listening, she's gonna be like I can't fucking believe and I better not make a clip of this because she'll be pissed.
Carmen Lezeth:But I'm just saying sometimes, yeah, and it's hard. It's hard. 20 years friendship. What's the longest friendship you've had, cynthia, with a best friend?
Cynthia Ruiz :let's see, I was friends with someone since the fourth grade and we stopped being friends probably about six months after I met Juan. I was 18. No, 19. That was a long time. Was she the one that liked Juan? She liked Juan at first, but there was some jealousy, issues of spending too much time with him and not with her. We got into a fight, yeah, and that friendship Now it's blown over. We're friends on Facebook and friends on Facebook are for real and forever.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick, you have a best friend now that I never heard of. I remember recently. So Cynthia and I talk every once in a while, once a month, like our own conversation, whatever. And I've known Cynthia since she was born basically I'm older than she is and then one day, out of the blue, she's like oh Carmen, can I call you back? I have to talk to my best friend or something. And I was like. I was like is she just making up shit to get off the phone with me because I'd never heard of his best friend. I was like is she just making up shit to get off the phone with me Because I'd never heard of his best friend. I was so humiliated Again, it wasn't about me, she actually has a best friend. So that best friend you've known for how long?
Cynthia Ruiz :That one for about. Let me see 20 years. I have another one that's been 26 years.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, these best friends, though, are they imaginary friends? They're best friends, my best friends, yes, okay. Darcy said the thing, oh, the thing. She called me will ensure that I never make up with her. Ooh, ooh, okay. Mario said my best friend and I have been friends for over 40 years. Whatever, mario no, I'm just kidding Can you imagine being best friends with Mario for 40 years? I can't, I can't. I was going to say something like funny, but then it didn't seem funny in my head when I went over it, so I had to let it go. Rick, what's the longest friend you've ever had?
Rick Costa:You said friend or best friend.
Carmen Lezeth:Best friend.
Rick Costa:Best friend, probably maybe 15 years, but it could be longer, could have been longer, but every time I had a best friend, most of them ended up moving away somewhere.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, but moving shouldn't matter, in best friendship-ness.
Rick Costa:I agree.
Carmen Lezeth:I agree, but they let you down.
Rick Costa:But people distance does not make the heart grow fonder in this case, apparently.
Carmen Lezeth:So wait, was your best friend, like someone you were romantically involved with, or just?
Rick Costa:No, no, no, no, no, no. But in my heart, in my mind, when you're my friend, you're my friend always, like forever. But apparently, if you move away, out of sight, out of mind, and who is you?
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, but who is you? Okay, but did you reach out to them and call and try to be friends Of?
Rick Costa:course.
Carmen Lezeth:Is it possible that you could just lose touch and then you reconnect again, or did you really get hurt because they didn't reach out to you?
Rick Costa:I mean it's been several people. Oh, thank you, darcy. She said Rick's always come through for me. You're so sweet, thank you.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick lets me down every Thursday night, sorry.
Rick Costa:And who's been with you every Thursday for how long I'm sorry.
Carmen Lezeth:Tonight I was scared. I had to send you an Instagram.
Rick Costa:I was like oh did you? I didn't even see it.
Carmen Lezeth:I know, because you don't even look at my Instagrams. No more. No, I'm just kidding.
Rick Costa:No, because I'm busy with mom, I'm just saying but anyway, you know what I really was like.
Carmen Lezeth:I was just too tired to do this on my own. Darcy said that the name that her ex-best friend called her was really bad. I think the idea that any friend of mine would call me a name A best friend would never call me a name that's just wrong. That's a whole other connection I can't even deal with. That's strange. So I'm really sorry about that, Cause that must hurt your feelings. I know that would hurt my feelings. I don't think I've ever had a friend call me a name not to my face, and certainly not anything I heard about Cause I would. I don't know. I think if you're in a heat, like in a moment of anger, if your best friend still calls you like me and Andrea have never had an all out fight. We've been mad at each other, but we just don't talk to each other for five days you know what I mean Like in silence, but there's no like name calling or yeah and Cynthia, when you and I had a fight, you were vile.
Cynthia Ruiz :You apologized, but the words out of your mouth were so bad.
Rick Costa:Every name in the book Wow In Spanish and English Right.
Carmen Lezeth:It was because you can imagine Cynthia being. I mean, you guys can? It's usually the quiet ones, right? You see what I'm saying? The giggly quiet ones Am.
Cynthia Ruiz :I right Am I?
Carmen Lezeth:right. Darcy said after she called me that I hate to admit it, but I let it rip on her and I went crazy on her booty. I'm being all like casual now and I'm usually staring at her ass. Oh, I can't wait to read this book. I was talking about that, but you can already tell she got juice going. Okay, she got juice going, darcy.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm sorry, it feels like it's really raw and new and that's the hardest part and I have no words to share to say it's going to get better. Blah, blah, blah. Now that bullshittery everyone tries to do to make you feel better, because it just sucks and I'm sorry you're going through it and I'm sorry she hurt you. I don't know. I have a hard time with friendships that are not really friendships and I let them go pretty quickly. But I don't know. We've talked about relationships before, about friendships and the definitions of friendship, but I think, like for me, mario and I had stopped just out of circumstance, like I, he moved on from city, national bank, I had left brand new school, little distance, you know what I mean. We hadn't talked for a while. But then the definition of friendship that became. The thing is that once we reconnected, it was like just yesterday yeah.
Rick Costa:That's the way I am.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah.
Rick Costa:Everybody is.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I think it's about connection, though. So maybe the people that moved away weren't really connected to you in the way you thought. Is that possible that hours and hours and drove to his house like a half an hour, so other people understand? The definition of friendship from my point of view is like it's not. It doesn't matter what we do as individuals in the friendship. What matters is understand the reciprocation and understand what they're going through. Right and understanding. Are they really that friend?
Rick Costa:Right, yeah, like the friend I have now.
Cynthia Ruiz :Me.
Rick Costa:Definitely.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, of course, my actual best breath, like you, literally you said, like actual, I'm not actually a friend best I'm not your best what the fuck am I in my book?
Rick Costa:best friends talk almost every day, almost every day you have to talk every day. We, my best friend we talk pretty much every day, yeah okay, I'm on it.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm gonna call you tomorrow. Boo, I'm just kidding, I'm just messing with you. Alma just said my bestie sister and I have been together for 36 years. That's really cool. Darcy said she was never a true friend and I kept thinking she would change, but she didn't. Oh, that's hard. Oh, that's right, mar Mario. It's about authenticity what I said.
Cynthia Ruiz :That's tough because in Darcy's eyes that she was her best friend. But this woman obviously didn't see Darcy as hers because she she said it right there she thought she would change over time but she didn't but look at Darcy looking out.
Carmen Lezeth:She's like hey, am I your best friend, rick? Exactly, you need to choose, you need to choose, you need to choose. No, I'm just kidding, I'm just messing with you. Okay, so you and your best friend talk every day. I used to do that when I was like in my 20s, me and I used to talk every day, but now we don't, yeah.
Rick Costa:And he's proven over and over again like he's. When I got in my car accident a few years ago, he was like an hour away. He immediately drove to me to help me. We're there for each other. It's like constantly, anytime he needs me. Vice versa.
Carmen Lezeth:Does he watch the show? Because that would define my understanding if he's really your best friend.
Rick Costa:I don't know if he watches this show.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, but he watches your show every day.
Rick Costa:No, not every day.
Carmen Lezeth:He needs to watch this show. If he wants to be considered your best friend, he needs to support the show.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just saying, I'm just kidding. Darcy said she always wanted to see how much money she could get out of me. That's why I'm thinking this really no, I don't want to define it just based on a chat thing or whatever. But again it goes back to that thing I was saying before is I think sometimes we put more into the relationship than we understand the other person's putting in as well. This is with all friendships. This is it. It's all relationships. It's mother, daughter, sister, brother, it's friendships, romance, whatever you. There's a give and take. Sometimes your friend needs more, more love, more hugs, more understanding, more compassion, and then it switches right. So it balances out.
Carmen Lezeth:If you're not getting that, if you're not getting that like I have one friend who I don't talk to anymore and I know he gets it because he stopped calling me he really was just a good friend. We actually met in church at Agape and he's a good guy. But it's just the constant. I felt like there was a constant grievance, constant negativity, constant doing bad and I was just like I can't take on this all the time. I can't do it. You know what I mean. And it's not that I, if he called tomorrow and said he needed something, I would help him.
Carmen Lezeth:But and then so it's been like a year or two. And it's so funny because I was just thinking about him the other day. I'm hoping he was doing well and but I would never say he was my best friend and we were friends. But now I'm like, okay, it's just changed. Right now he needs to get into a better space, to be in my aura or whatever you want to call it, cause I can't take all that negativity. I don't mean that in an ego way. I think we all need to do that. We all need to find ways to protect our aura, our spirit, our joy and I'm not saying that in a funny way, I'm saying that for real, like if there's anything being older has taught me is exactly that you can't let toxicity be in your life, especially when you see it. And people see toxicity and then they stay in it, which I don't understand. I don't get it. But why are you laughing, cynthia? Because it's true.
Cynthia Ruiz :It's so true.
Carmen Lezeth:Expand on your truth.
Cynthia Ruiz :No, it's very true, and I know you are very quick to get rid of negativity in your life we're going back to me and my past.
Carmen Lezeth:Look it. We all have different paths. We all have strengths and weaknesses and I've said this before our strengths and our weaknesses are always also the opposite. So a lot of my strength is also my weakness. It's hard for me after my three-time rule to give people another chance. I really have the inability. I can forgive you, but I don't want to see a dumb ass in my life ever again.
Cynthia Ruiz :You know what I mean.
Carmen Lezeth:You can go do your thing, but after three times of hurting me and hurting me. It takes a lot to hurt me, but if you hurt me more than three times you're done out of my life. It's a really simple rule that works for me. And the reason why Cynthia's laughing is because I've done it with blood DNA people and I did it a long time ago. I was much younger and everybody was stunned that I had done it Not stunned, but it was a pretty remarkable thing for me to be able to do. But I did it because I had support elsewhere and I think that's the difference, right, I had a whole support network somewhere else so I could walk away from pain. And also, by the way, it wasn't just for me, it was also for them. You know what I mean. I didn't think of it that way because it was selfish on my part I was protecting me, but at the end of the day, I think they live happier, lovelier lives without me in it.
Rick Costa:That's how I see it Cynthia's.
Carmen Lezeth:I ain't even going to say a word. I'm going to leave that alone. Because Cynthia's in touch with those people, so that's why she's staying.
Cynthia Ruiz :I don't act like I call them every day.
Carmen Lezeth:No, I'm just saying, and I understand there's issues, complications, whatever.
Rick Costa:I think with some people they've just grown up with that and that's literally all they've experienced and known, and so for them that's just the way it is. They don't realize there's a way out of the toxicity. They just think this is normal and they don't realize no, this is definitely not normal.
Carmen Lezeth:Darcy just said her name is okay. We're not going to do that. She started putting down my son, who has. I'm surprised I didn't go after her. Okay, darcy, here's what I'm going to suggest, though I'm going to suggest something.
Carmen Lezeth:Girl, I don't want you to write anything. I know I don't know you, but I say this from love and from a place of experience. I don't want you to write no more in the chat that you may regret 10 years later or three months later and it's still on my chat because it's going to be on Rick's and Cynthia's. And I say that because I think sometimes, when things happen close, like in time period, we haven't had a moment. I'm not saying you're going to forgive her, I'm not saying she's ever going to be a friend again or whatever, but I don't know you at all. But I feel very comfortable saying that you don't want to hurt somebody else. I know you wanted to hurt her yesterday or whenever this happened, but I think in the bigger picture of who you are, you know. You see what I'm saying, though Like I, I just I just feel like you have a good energy and I'm not even into energy, but you know what I'm saying.
Carmen Lezeth:I think most people sometimes in the heat of the moment, will say things and then be like, ooh, I wish I didn't do, you know. So I just I'm trying to protect you in a way. You have every right to feel the way you feel. So that's not what I'm saying. I just don't want you to put it down and regret it in a few weeks, especially when the podcast goes viral and crazy. You know what I mean. And then people are like who is this Darcy woman? But that would be good, because then they're going to buy her book because we talked about it earlier.
Carmen Lezeth:It's going to be available on Tuesday. What's the date? August 4th, sixth, Sixth Wait, what's the name of the book?
Rick Costa:Scapegoat.
Carmen Lezeth:Scapegoat on Amazon. Look at me doing all this free publicity no.
Cynthia Ruiz :I'm happy.
Carmen Lezeth:Hey, I know what it's like to be an author first time author writing your pain and your whatever down and then putting it out there. I know. So I'm just so happy for you. Again, bravo, and don't write the second book right away. Give it some time. We don't want to talk about this in the book too much. It comes out on her birthday. Oh okay, oh, that's going to be good. I'm going to try to watch on Saturday. What time?
Rick Costa:Saturday One o'clock my time, your time, one o'clock. Yeah, one o'clock I'm going to try.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm going to try At rickkostacom oh there's always a replay too. I could do the replay if I wasn't so busy.
Rick Costa:All the editing.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what? I don't think I'm going to do it again. I know I'm trying not to complain.
Rick Costa:Oh, so you were explaining. The difference between you and me is I don't do any editing, I just go live and it's done and that's it. I don't think about it, but not yours. You have to go back because you got to fix the audio and the podcast. It's a lot more work.
Carmen Lezeth:And then I upload it on the podcast and then I do clips so that we can hey.
Rick Costa:I don't know how to say Rina Rafia.
Carmen Lezeth:Rafia. Do you know, rafia?
Rick Costa:Yeah, she's my Muslim friend from England.
Carmen Lezeth:Hi, rafia, I love the name, but I didn't want to mess it up. I wasn't sure. Hi, yeah, so it's because we're trying to gain an audience on the podcast and I had first started doing the podcast before I did the live stream, so it became Bing. Oh, she's so cute. Darcy's like deleted that comment with her name on it. Good, hey, mr Mate, what's his name?
Rick Costa:Anthony.
Carmen Lezeth:Hi, Anthony Rick. How do you know? Because people come on your show all the time, so you remember everybody. I don't remember people's like their moniker and then their real name.
Carmen Lezeth:I try, my memory sucks usually, but I try, but it's eight years, so I guess that's different. Yeah, but your show is also. You do it every day, you do it solo. So even if you had to edit anything or even if you wanted to edit anything, it's just new, so it'd be one track. But again, I'm not trying to complain, I'm trying to just figure out a way to give myself a break once in a while. I don't know what my. It's not my rush, but it's I just liked. I like the end result, I like that somehow people are laughing or telling me oh my God, that show is so funny, who's that guy? Or?
Carmen Lezeth:And then I realized I haven't finished the website, I haven't put up our store yet, even though the store is ready, I just haven't put it up yet. I haven't. I have everybody's bios ready. I just I. And I realized you know what I got to calm down, I gave myself a three year business plan and I don't know why I came up with that. You know what I mean. Like I put myself in a box and then I was like suffocating in it because I put up all these rules, because I want it to be something substantial, and I want, but we do have an thank you everyone who's listening. I appreciate you all. I really do, and I should just be okay with the fact that we're having fun and chit chatting. You know what I mean? Yeah.
Rick Costa:And no matter what, we're here every Thursday, so they always have something to watch and listen to.
Carmen Lezeth:Sadie. Okay, sadie, I asked Tony for your information so that I could email you, so you and I could chat. We don't have to do a live stream or whatever, but I thought you and I could have a separate chat. Can you go to my contact page or something? Go to aatjoycom and send me your information, or tell Tony to send me your email or something. I don't even know Sadie's real name, like her last name, to find her on anything. But hi, sadie, thank you for stopping by. I appreciate you so much, oh thank you.
Carmen Lezeth:Alma. Okay, no problem, cool, thank you, sadie. So, yeah, so that's what my realization was this year, this past weekend, if you're stressed, just eat chocolate. You have no idea. Honey, my hips will tell you I do. Hey, Darcy, tony D just said happy birthday. Yeah, happy birthday, sadie.
Rick Costa:Oh yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, it's Sadie's birthday. Okay, Happy birthday. I thought he was saying happy birthday to Darcy. Oh, Darcy, you can find me at Carmen Lisette. So if you go to, I guess I could do the little thing here.
Cynthia Ruiz :Let me just I never said it to her.
Carmen Lezeth:No, but don't I have this right here where I do? Is it showing? No, there it is. If you go there you can find all my links. Yep, the AT joycom, all about the joycom. But even if you go to the website all about the joycom you can find all my links there. But it's at Carmen Lee sat and Lee said is L-E-Z-E-T-H. Why is Tony doing that?
Rick Costa:I don't know.
Carmen Lezeth:Tony, if you have time to do all that in the chat, you could come online and say it to my face. Okay, he knows what I'm saying. He knows what I'm trying to say there you got something to say baby, say it to my face.
Cynthia Ruiz :What he's going to come in with this look like what did you say?
Carmen Lezeth:he afraid, he afraid, he afraid. There is something I want to talk about in the last 10 minutes. Rick, you don't have to reward me, because now I'm not sure I already had it ready.
Rick Costa:You're right, I already typed it in, ready to go here's the thing everyone you should also know.
Carmen Lezeth:The other thing is we keep going long, which is really fun, or whatever, and I think one of the things I talked to rick about is that eventually I'd love to do a maybe friday night, which is just for fun. We could stay on for as long as people want to stay on, but then people don't have to work in the morning. Blah, blah, blah. You know what I mean, but the thursday night show really is what I want to try to promote for the podcast and have it on a regular basis.
Rick Costa:Oh, Sorry Go ahead, man, I thought it was going to go like this. I was close. I thought it was going to go like this.
Carmen Lezeth:Say it to my face Go ahead.
Tony D. :I don't know why everybody can understand me, but you. Hey, his mic is working good today and you're going to say somebody else's name, then read it and be like oh, it's her birthday.
Carmen Lezeth:Wait, you said happy birthday, Sadie.
Tony D. :How's everybody doing?
Carmen Lezeth:Wait, did that not say happy birthday Sadie.
Tony D. :At first you didn't. You'll see it on the replay.
Carmen Lezeth:Because I thought you would, because you missed. It was Darcy's birthday on Tuesday, that's when her book's coming out. Happy birthday, Darcy. I did not know.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, so.
Carmen Lezeth:I thought okay, you want to apologize to me now. No, it was just. I thought you were saying happy birthday to Darcy. What name is behind the happy birthday? I just saw the happy B and then a D. I didn't see the S because I was going so fast because I'm trying to host the show.
Tony D. :We've been around each other for a year, I have to tell you it is not that hard.
Carmen Lezeth:It is not that hard. Here's the thing. I think you want me to understand you better than I have the capability of doing, or that I care to.
Cynthia Ruiz :You care to See.
Tony D. :Excuse me, I've been up here a lot. I said I was going to sit back. I went and got something to eat. I was taking my time, I was getting situated. You got something to say to my face.
Cynthia Ruiz :I will click the hell out of it. You know why I said that.
Carmen Lezeth:Did you not get? Why I said that? You did not. You have no. Sadie understood why I said it. They understood why I said it. You have no idea. Okay, let me just give my little lesson I want to give today. I have a little lesson I want to share with you. How's everybody doing? Tony, we down to nine minutes? Alma, alma, no. Never ever, ever do that.
Tony D. :We're going to have people coming down in this room. How are you all a hold of me? This is what me and her do. This is why we are on the opposite sides of the country.
Carmen Lezeth:That's right, this is what we do. We fight, but we love, but we fight.
Tony D. :Don't tell her her voice changing on me. We love, but we fight.
Carmen Lezeth:That's the way it is, though. Okay, wait, I do have to do this lesson. There's a reason why this is not about politics. Like Spole siblings, that's a good one. That's right, anthony. Okay, here's the thing. So, on TikTok, I posted a TikTok explaining to people that I was both Latina and Black. So we're not getting into politics, but I do want to explain to people in case there's any confusion. This past week Was it yesterday, the day before Donald Trump was at the I'm taking the day off. I didn't tell you to come up. I did not tell you to come up. We're not going to talk about politics. You said it in my face. That's what you did. I said it in my face and you said nothing.
Tony D. :You said nothing in my face. I got all zoomed up, I pulled a Mario, I got all in the camera.
Carmen Lezeth:That's my boy, mario, but you said nothing, and then you realized that it was just a little mistake and that you understood that I was saying. I thought you said happy birthday to Darcy.
Rick Costa:Is this a black job? We kids in the house? That's an excellent question. Go ahead.
Carmen Lezeth:Here's what I do. Want to explain something because I think it's important For everyone who's listening. This is not just about politics.
Tony D. :Six and a half minutes.
Carmen Lezeth:There are four races. There are only four races. Okay, this is how Vice President Harris and we we're gonna put respect on her name. If you don't know how to say her first name, you can call her. Vice president harris can be both with tony la cara. What's with the face? Why are you? I'm keeping my opinion to myself. I've been in opinion.
Carmen Lezeth:I am trying to just put a smile with I'm this about opinion. This is a fact. I'm going to explain why people are confused, because I get the same drama from people when you're mixed. Okay, there are four races. The four races are black, white, asian, and then the fourth one is called and this I get it wrong all the time. It's called where is it? It used to be called it's like Austrioid, okay, austrioid. It's like Australia, but with an IOD. Okay, and it says it's a historical grouping of people indigenous to Australia and Melanesia. It can also refer to people from parts of Southeast Asia and South Asia.
Carmen Lezeth:So the thing about race that's interesting is that race is a construct, about what we look like. It's usually about skin color, right, it's usually about characteristics, like what our nose looks like, our hair, whatever, but usually race is about we see something and we have we look alike. There's more like of me and Tony than maybe me and Rick. Okay, so, race, there's only four races. Kamala Harris, vice president Harris, has two races One is black and one is Asian. Okay, I have, I am black and my ethnicity is Latina, so ethnicity is different from race. Ethnicity is where you come from, so you can be white and be Irish. Your race is white, your ethnicity is Irish or Scottish or whatever. You know what I mean Latino, like my mother's from Honduras.
Carmen Lezeth:The reason why this is so important is because people are trying to disparage Vice President Harris for being both Black and Asian. Her family is very mixed, like all of ours, all of us if you're white, you're not just white, exactly, and now let me explain the last part of this that I think is really important. Like all of ours, all of us If you're white, you're not just white. And now let me explain the last part of this that I think is really important. Nationality is where we come from as a nation. So everyone on this live right now is from the United States of America. That's our nationality from America.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, so please Google and understand before you start making accusations. You can find different ways to disapprove of Donald Trump or disapprove of Kamala Harris. You can have your differences about whoever you want, but be better than trying to knock people down because of where they come from and who they are as individuals. That's like the lowest you can go, like I'm and this isn't just about the political thing, I'm just saying in general. We're so afraid of people that don't look like us, so we don't understand, instead of embracing the possibility that we could learn something and be somebody and do something. How do you, rafia? Is that how?
Rick Costa:you say it, rafia.
Carmen Lezeth:Rafia, I've been seeing the images on X as well. I think it's not fair to disparage her like that. Albeit, I don't live in USA. Oh, okay, thank you for saying that. I'm sorry I didn't mean to say everybody in the chat as well, I meant here, but you're right. But thank you for saying that.
Carmen Lezeth:I think it's just the lowest of low when we become those people, and I think the smarter thing to do, the better thing to do, is not only be educated and know those differences but also understand. That's the if you. There are so many other things you can argue with her about If you want to. If you can find something in her policies or things that she's done that you don't agree with, then that's going to be the high watermark for you to have a really good, solid argument.
Carmen Lezeth:But to be taking people down and look at I said this when I was a kid, not that I would ever change where I come from, who I am or what I look like, but none of us have any control over that it's like being mad at somebody because they have blue eyes or brown eyes. It's the most ridiculous, pathetic thing, and all you're doing is showing I'm going to say it, your racism and your uneducated-ness and I just showed mine, because that's not really a word educated-ness. But you see what I'm saying there? It's like you're just showing who you are and how little you know. So please, I'm gonna say it one last time race, ethnicity, nationality, those are three different things and we all fit under those categories. Okay, go, tony, I feel like you have something you want to say about that. Do you disagree with those?
Carmen Lezeth:You got one minute left, sid. Now he's on the thing, cynthia.
Cynthia Ruiz :No, I agree 100%.
Carmen Lezeth:Rick.
Rick Costa:Humans are weird. I've always said this that if something happened and the world and they did a TV show about this something happened and the world went blind, everybody we would find something else to nitpick about. Yeah, and it's crazy. Why are humans like this? I don't understand.
Carmen Lezeth:I think it's just an easy way. Look, I've said this before. That's why I love this show and I love all about the joy as the concept and I love that I figured that out about myself that no matter what I went through as a kid, I always tried to find the joy. I think as humans, we tend to I don't know we always want to see the car accident, we always want to be in the drama. I think it takes a lot of effort to get out of the drama, to get out of to drama, to get out of, to force yourself to move away from that. And I have to tell you, it's like we were saying earlier getting toxic people out of your life. Why do we stay in it? Why do we stay in it? Because I think there's something that gravitates us to be in that situation. You know what I mean To be in that situation, so we can maybe be figuring out something or trying to fix other people or whatever, when the easier thing to do is to walk away and fix yourself.
Carmen Lezeth:Melanie, this will be the last comment I say, because we're going to jump off. Melanie said I wish politicians would just talk about their policies and not putting down their opponent. Melanie, you and I, we agree all the time. We have political differences, and yet you and I always agree on the same fundamental things, and this is why I believe our country is far more in the middle and agree on more things than we don't. But yeah, that's happening way too much. We're putting down each other instead of talking about our policies and arguing about things that are of substance, that really matter.
Carmen Lezeth:With that said, I just want to say thank you to everyone who stopped by today. I don't know what's happening, but I'm grateful. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Shout out to everyone watching the show. Thank you for everyone who stopped by in the chat. I adore you so much. I appreciate all the new people. So, with all that said, please remember everyone. It really is all about the joy. Please smash that like button, please, please. We really could use that, and we'll see you guys again next week. Thank you, bye everyone, see ya.
Carmen Lezeth:Thanks for stopping by. All about the joy be better and stay beautiful. Folks have a sweet day.