All About The Joy
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All About The Joy
Regrets, Friendships, Val Kilmer and the Art of Cutting Toxic People Out of Your Life
Starting with a reflection on Val Kilmer's philosophy—"I have no regrets because I have lost and found parts of myself that I never knew existed"—we dive deep into what it really means to live without regret while acknowledging our past choices. The conversation quickly evolves into a therapeutic exploration of cutting toxic people out of our lives and the liberation that comes with it.
We get refreshingly honest about "performative friendships" and why they're not worth maintaining. Maurio and Alma share their united approach to handling difficult relationships, while Carmen opens up about her growing ability to establish boundaries as she gets older. Rick contributes his perspective on patience and its limits, and Cynthia offers insights about discerning which relationships deserve our energy.
The discussion takes a fascinating turn when we explore the delicate subject of money between friends—from uncomfortable borrowing situations to the friends who show up not with cash but with groceries and childcare during life's toughest moments. We share vulnerable stories about times we've needed support and the people who came through without being asked.
This episode isn't just conversation; it's permission to prioritize your peace and surround yourself with people who genuinely enhance your life.
What toxic relationship might you need to reevaluate? Who are the "root" friends in your life that deserve more of your attention? Join us for this soul-nourishing dialogue about creating space for authentic joy.
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Host, Carmen Lezeth
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hey everyone, welcome to all about the joy how you guys doing hi rick, cynthia, mario alma, what's up?
Maurio Dawson:buenos noches, buenos dias, buenos tardes, depending on where you are oh, are we wearing prints? We are official paisley park merch. Yes, it is.
Carmen Lezeth:I wanted to talk a little bit about Val Kilmer. I don't know if you guys are fans, but you know he passed away yeah.
Rick Costa:Batman Forever. I just watched that movie because of him, like today.
Carmen Lezeth:You've never seen it before.
Rick Costa:I have, but it's been so long yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what? I never fight with people about who the best batman is. Like I'm not gonna go down that hole, but he had the hottest lips as batman and I've enjoyed watching him as a homicide okay, like if that matters. I've never been a fan of of dc but I do like the batmans, but I do think he was um, that was not the best batman.
Carmen Lezeth:We'll just say that that nor or nor clunies was trash garbage I think clunies was worse than val kilmer hot garbage, yeah, hot garbage. But I wanted to start a little bit with just talking about, like one of the quotes that val Kilmer is known for saying about regrets, because I was having a lot of regret feelings this week about a lot of different things and I thought we would talk a little bit about it. But he said I have no regrets because I have lost and found parts of myself that I never knew existed and I thought that was an interesting thing. I never knew existed and I thought that was an interesting thing. I used to pride myself on saying I have no regrets because I think if you do the best you can with the information you have in front of you, that's all you can do. That's the best you can do. But I've been regretting a lot of things lately, so I just wanted to know what you guys thought about regrets or about Val Kilmer, or about any of his movies or Go ahead, Mario.
Maurio Dawson:Well, no, I mean, you know, I actually, I mean I actually watched his documentary when it came out, remember, and it was very interesting to get his perspective and to hear his voice, you know, as he was, you know, on the decline, and so I got to learn more about him as the man versus the actor, and I think it was very insightful that, you know, and it was, it was a very kind gesture of his son to you know, use his voice for his dad.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah, to use his voice for his dad, yeah, and it gave me a more rounded view of who he was as a man, not the actor, and I think he was a good man and he was a pretty good actor. He's got some great stuff.
Carmen Lezeth:Juilliard-trained actor. He was really way up there as a great actor that don't mean nothing, well it does when it's not an ordinary actor. It's still shocking because he's young, you know, um, and he had so much. Yeah, he was 65, um, but he had so much. People know him as iceman from top gun is what people know him from, but I remember I think he was like one of my first crushes too.
Carmen Lezeth:The movie was Real Genius which is a really it reminds me it's not at all the same as, but it's in that same time period of, like War Games, that kind of whole you know area time period. He was a great actor, but I think one of the things that I regret um, just to get back to that, because that's kind of what I want to talk about today is I I had opportunities that I didn't take because I was afraid I didn't jump with both feet. And yet there are other things that I've done and everyone thinks I'm like God, that's so scary, like moving to California and not knowing anybody. Do you guys ever have any things that you wish you had done? And when you look back on it you're like, damn it, I should have just done that, I should have just jumped in.
Maurio Dawson:I wish I didn't get on the pole so much back in the day. But no, I wish I didn't get on the poll, so much back in the day.
Alma Dawson:No, I'm so joking, you went right up my nose. Thank you, mario.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm so joking. This is a G-rated show. Well, they didn't see the show?
Alma Dawson:Is that how you met Alma? Honestly, now, at this age, I don't have any regrets, because all the decisions that I made, all of the things that happened to me, you know, brought me to the places where I am and, you know, taught me lessons, taught me valuable lessons. Now, if you would have talked to me when I was, you know, 25, then I would have been like, oh, I regret so much and I wish I would have done this. I wish I would have done this, and you know, but I think with age comes definitely wisdom, um, you know, but I feel like I'm still constantly learning and if there's things that I feel like I haven't gotten to do, I still have an opportunity to do them. Don't waste time. You can't buy time back. That's the one thing you can't get back. So don't waste your time on things that you know steal your energy, steal your joy. You know. Just be Like what? Like what? Toxic people.
Maurio Dawson:Boom.
Carmen Lezeth:And that is the end of our show.
Alma Dawson:Whether it's family, whether it's friends that you've had for many, many years, whether you know, whatever it may be, just don't waste your time.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what I think that's one of the things I regret, though, I think, is that and I'm really good at cutting people out Like amazing, and today, when I was talking to Alden, we were having this conversation about regret we were talking about Val Kilmer I was telling him like I don't talk to people anymore that get on my every nerve. If you can't make my life easier, I'm done. And there are people who are they're not upset with me, they're confused. They're like why didn't you call me? Why didn't you do this? I'm like I just it has to be easy. If it's not easy, I'm not doing it.
Maurio Dawson:Actually, I just did a post, a story, yesterday, and I basically told people in the story don't feel bad about cutting off connections, bad connections when you were the only one doing all the work, hello. And so you know, I don't feel bad about cutting those bad connections off, because if I was the only one doing all the work then we didn't have a real connection anyway. So you know what Chalking up the deuces. God bless you, have a good life. I wish you well from afar. Bye-bye.
Carmen Lezeth:See you, but Cynthia, what about you, rick, what about you?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I used to regret not going to college earlier and not taking advantage that my stepfather worked at BU and I could have gone for free if I would have gotten in. I know, I know I didn't know that, but I think it was better that I waited, because at least now I didn't waste the time not knowing what I wanted to study, and that would have been money just wasted. Even though I still owe student loans. But at least now I know what I want to do and I'm working towards that.
Carmen Lezeth:Is there a reason why you didn't do it back then?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :That you know of. I really didn't know what I wanted to do, so why waste the time and money?
Maurio Dawson:Well, okay, this is one Alma and I have talked about private, but we'll share it. Well, I'll share it.
Carmen Lezeth:I was just going to say did you ask? Uh-oh, I'll share it. This is where it gets spicy.
Maurio Dawson:Go ahead.
Alma Dawson:I don't know what he's going to say.
Maurio Dawson:No, we've had a very challenging conversation about having additional children and so we didn't. We had. We should have had our second child right after we had Marissa, but I chose to wait and I was like I think it's too soon and I, you know, I didn't want to rush, I wanted some space. And now, looking back, I kind of regret that. But then, in other terms, I don't regret it because I got sick, and I got really really sick, really really bad, and we had two kids, for, you know, alma actually becoming a single parent at one point, because I was so sick, I was on dialysis, I was in the hospital months at a time. That would have been a lot on her.
Maurio Dawson:So I regret not having a child, but God understood why I wasn't supposed to have an extra child having a child. But God understood why I wasn't supposed to have an extra child because had Alma had that extra body all over her all the time, it would have been even worse for her and even for me. Because you know I have regrets, but then I don't. But that was one big regret. If it makes sense, you know what? I'm not doing this with you tonight. I'm not doing this with you. Don't sit up there and give me this blank face.
Rick Costa:I've seen people get in a whole lot being sad in the face, I know, I think they can feel it through the podcast.
Alma Dawson:I understand. I understand your feelings on the situation, but you know that those were not my feelings.
Maurio Dawson:No, and we've had that conversation. Yeah, I mean. So you know. Welcome to the newlywed game.
Carmen Lezeth:Because, my understanding, Alma, if you could I mean, we don't want to get all up in your business, but you would have handled it- she felt like she would have handled it.
Alma Dawson:Whether you have one or you have five, you figure it out.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :So, let me ask would you adopt?
Alma Dawson:now. Yeah, but we have had this conversation as well. We definitely do want to adopt yes as well. We definitely do want to adopt, it has to be our grown, almost grown, because she's not grown up yet. Half-grown child, adult, semi-adult child needs to be in her own home.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah, in her own space.
Alma Dawson:In her own space so that we can bring another child into our home. Yeah, in her own space. In her own space so that we can bring another child into our home.
Maurio Dawson:I think Mursa would be a great big sister, but it just when you have an only child over a certain age, it's just like you're raising two only children and you would think that your only child, your only adult child, would not demand the same attention.
Carmen Lezeth:I think that your only child, your only adult child would not demand the same attention. I think that's normal. Yeah, still hard, but it would be.
Alma Dawson:It's normal, yeah, so no, yeah, we're, we've definitely had that conversation, so that's definitely in the in the future. And now it's just about agreeing about the age range. So yeah, I'm not changing on diapers, so the age range.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah, I'm not changing my diapers.
Alma Dawson:So you know, and that's fine, I've agreed to that.
Rick Costa:What's with the attitude?
Carmen Lezeth:What's with the attitude? I'm attitudinal Rick. What about you?
Rick Costa:And regret. I'm currently still watching more of this Is Us.
Rick Costa:I'm in the middle of the second season and you regret you didn't watch it back in the day, so I can't regret it now, but, um, yeah, randall wanted to adopt and then they adopted a girl and he was like she was like a troubled child. So it's really interesting the whole thing. And then, mom, anyway, usually when you said adoption, I was like, oh yeah, I just watched that. But, um, mine is I think I brought it before it's work related where I took a promotion that I didn't know in hindsight but it was the stupidest thing I could have did, because I got fired three months later because I was the newest person in that department. Yeah, they laid off all the newer people in whatever department they were.
Rick Costa:Had I not done that and I didn't even want to, they literally pressured me to do it. They're like we think you should do it, we think you can do it. I was like I'm perfectly happy where I am. Had I not done that, it probably would have been changed my life a lot, because after that I got divorced not too long after that. But the one good thing that did happen again God knows what he's doing I guess my cousin the one that died when she was 34, that was very, very close to that's when her cancer got really, really bad and she needed extra help. So it all worked out. It was still purpose-filled. Yeah, my scripture thought yesterday was God, he works all things for the good.
Alma Dawson:Yes, yes, yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm sorry.
Maurio Dawson:You laughing? You know You're okay with that, aren't you? You already know where her brain went.
Carmen Lezeth:Because I was just talking to Alden, who's an atheist, and we were having a whole conversation about how God works Really.
Rick Costa:With atheists.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, he's like a Ricky Gervais atheist of everyone else's faith, but really smart when it comes to how having the conversation about the belief in God or not. You know what I mean. That's why I started laughing, because I just had that. That's why I was running so late, because I was on the phone with Alden talking about too many things. But yeah, Is there a movie that you guys ever regretted watching? Did you ever walk out of a movie?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I'm scared right now. Oh, I want to know, Mario.
Maurio Dawson:La La Land. That was the worst movie of my life. I was so annoyed. No, no, no, no. I was so annoyed. I actually walked out and I said can you give me my money back, because I can't get these two hours of my life back.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Give me my money.
Carmen Lezeth:I loved La La Land. I loved it.
Maurio Dawson:Hot garbage, oh my God Wow.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, yep, we will agree to disagree.
Alma Dawson:I don't know Like wow, I don't know what it was, yeah.
Maurio Dawson:Garbage Trash. Oh my God Trash.
Carmen Lezeth:Wow Okay, calmate, calm down. Okay, that's your thing, it's okay Of all the movies we love musicals.
Rick Costa:Yeah, I do we love musicals, love them.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :And that was not it.
Alma Dawson:That was not it.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I'm not going to argue with you why you hated it. I, I, I'm the complete opposite. I would actually say it's in my top 20 movies.
Maurio Dawson:I thought it was a great movie. Yeah, bless my heart.
Carmen Lezeth:It's a good movie, I, I mean. I think also it. You know it well. We don't have to talk about why I love it, but it, it is one of those pieces of art you either love or you don't have to talk about why I love it, but it, it is one of those pieces of art you either love or you don't. I don't know if I would ask for my money back, but I thought it was going to be something like well, to me, that's not the worst movie. So, cynthia, you hated La La Land.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I did.
Maurio Dawson:I.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I.
Maurio Dawson:I hated it I yes, wow, I did, I hated it.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :My people yes.
Carmen Lezeth:Wow, rick, did you even see La La Land?
Maurio Dawson:I heard of it. You didn't miss nothing.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :No, yeah, you did it was awesome, I didn't even look at it. Oh my God, and I still don't understand how they won.
Alma Dawson:Don't waste a Googler.
Rick Costa:No, they won what?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Rick.
Rick Costa:They won what they Rick? They won, they won what they won.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :for best picture, they won an Oscar for best picture.
Carmen Lezeth:How I don't know. It deserved it. It totally deserved it. It did I think too. Look, we don't have to. They voted studio yeah.
Rick Costa:They did not deserve it. I'm switching. I didn't watch it.
Carmen Lezeth:It's okay, we can just move on.
Rick Costa:I'm switching.
Carmen Lezeth:I didn't watch it, it's okay, don't move on. I think people have different tastes.
Maurio Dawson:I've never been so annoyed at a film in my whole life.
Alma Dawson:I tried. I still say it. I'm going to give it a chance. I'm going to say he waited outside in the lobby. He was like I'll be to give it a chance, I'm going to stay. I'm going to stay. And he waited outside in the lobby. He was like I'll be out here whenever you're done. Wow, OK, stop.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :It was horrible.
Carmen Lezeth:I think it's your opinion and that's fine, but I mean, I understand that you didn't like it, but it is just not your flavor, that's OK. That's how I feel about horror films and Disney. No, no, I don't like horror films.
Maurio Dawson:But I've had movies where I've been bored. I've had movies where I could you know I could sit through it. I went to school for this, like I've studied film from the 1900s.
Carmen Lezeth:Is it okay that it just wasn't your thing? Can you just leave it at that? Can it just be like you know what? Just let it work? No, I'm just wasn't your thing. Can you just leave it at that? Can it just be like?
Alma Dawson:you know what just didn't work? No, I'm just like. I'm just saying the entire academy voted it best picture it's possible. It's just not your thing and I know they're probably won't buy. One vote what they probably won't buy one vote it was still up in the running one vote, wait a minute.
Rick Costa:Tell me you hate something without saying you hate it. Wait, wait.
Maurio Dawson:They weren't in Best Picture, did they? It wasn't, didn't Moonlight?
Carmen Lezeth:be banned that year? No-transcript. No, they did. They won. It received widespread acclaim and won numerous awards, including six Oscars. Let's see what Oscars it won.
Maurio Dawson:No, I thought Moonlight beat them that year, you know what it did go to Moonlight.
Carmen Lezeth:You're right, that was the one that was the mistake. Yes, Remember they said Best Picture was La La Land and then it was like nope, it was Moonlight.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :But it did win six Oscars.
Carmen Lezeth:so actress, best director, cinematography, original score, original song and production design yeah.
Rick Costa:So when they announced it, they announced it wrong. Is that what happened?
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, at the.
Maurio Dawson:Oscars yeah, they did, it was a big, thing, yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:And they announced it to La La Land, everybody jumped and they got up there and everything and then they were like oops, mistake.
Maurio Dawson:Bye, bye.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :It's still light.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah.
Alma Dawson:And I didn't even love it.
Carmen Lezeth:But I get it.
Rick Costa:I get why it won, but I didn't love it, but I did walk out, and that's the only move I've ever done of the cable guy. I told y'all I brought my then girlfriend and then she decided to bring her friends. I'm like what you doing? And then the movie. I was already annoyed because of that situation in the first place. And the movie. I like Jim Carrey, but this movie I couldn't stand it. I was like I gots to go. You could stay watch out, not stay there.
Maurio Dawson:I feel you.
Carmen Lezeth:But I don't think you hated Cable Guy as much as they hated La La Land. Feeling your energy, that's some hate right there. Cynthia, what movie did you hate?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Oh La La Land, my Girl.
Alma Dawson:That was going to be your favorite my Girl, my Girl.
Maurio Dawson:My Girl, my Girl, my Girl, my.
Alma Dawson:Girl.
Maurio Dawson:My.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Girl, my Girl, my Girl, my Girl, my Girl.
Rick Costa:My Girl that one.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Well, no, I saw it at home. But that movie and Clockwork Orange, that movie was just really fucked me up, sorry.
Alma Dawson:I get that.
Rick Costa:I love psychological humor.
Alma Dawson:You know it's disturbing, but Clockwork.
Carmen Lezeth:Orange is a classic. I mean it's Stanley Kubrick. I get it.
Maurio Dawson:I get why you wouldn't like it, for sure. It makes sense why you don't like it.
Carmen Lezeth:But nobody liked it. I mean not that nobody liked it, but it's the art. I mean it's disturbing.
Maurio Dawson:It's the art of it yeah, yeah, fucking Stanley.
Rick Costa:Have you never walked out of a movie? Cynthia ever Literally walked out.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :No, I've never walked out. No.
Maurio Dawson:What about you, Carmen? What movie have you hated?
Carmen Lezeth:Because I know you got one. So there are movies I won't go to to see, like I would never go see the Cable Guy in a movie, but I've never walked out of a movie. If I go in, I'm like Alma, I will sit through it or whatever. Let me just give it a shot, whatever. You know what I mean. I think one of the movies that I regret watching was probably Silence of the Lambs, and I watched it, I know, but let me, oh my God, what is with the two of you today, people? You guys are on fire. What happened? Let me just tell you why Because it's not my genre. I don't like anything scary or whatever, and the only reason why I watched it is because I watch every movie that's nominated for an Oscar. And it had been nominated and somebody told me everything about it and I went and to this day it still disturbs me. You know what I mean. It's like I still.
Maurio Dawson:You know I don't love it when you hear Keontae and Father Beans that is the best movie ever.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm not saying it's not. It deserved the Oscar that year too. I'm not saying it's not. I'm saying for me it's one of the ones I regret Best movie what.
Maurio Dawson:No, she's a little extra with that. I enjoyed it, but it wasn't that deep for me.
Alma Dawson:That's one of my favorites.
Rick Costa:Yeah, it's rare for a horror movie to win an Oscar, isn't it? Yeah, it is.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know if it was. I mean, I think, the reason why it was not considered horror. It was considered psychological. Yeah, like it was more acceptable because it was drama or whatever. What were you going to say?
Alma Dawson:say, rick, I'm sorry um I forgot okay, we were talking about the best movie silence of the lambs.
Rick Costa:You were saying something oh, the best movie, yeah, the best movie. I just had something coming from my feed saying 10 movies that black people get annoyed if you haven't watched. And I'm like, oh okay, okay, yeah, I saw that, I saw that. I saw that I saw everyone except. And I'm like, oh, okay, okay, yeah, I saw that, I saw that, I saw that I saw everyone except one. And I was like, oh, I don't think I saw that it was Harlem Nights. I know, I knew I was going to get that reaction.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Don't build that. I haven't seen it either. We're done.
Maurio Dawson:That's it that trumps La.
Carmen Lezeth:La Land crowd, that's criminal. La La Land we can fight about, but that's criminal.
Rick Costa:You gonna shoot people in the big town. I'll watch it soon, wow. Every other one I saw. That's a good time. Come on now. You know I'm gonna watch that one. Go do yourself a favor, that's a good time.
Maurio Dawson:I was like come on now, you know I'm going to watch that one. No, go, do yourself a favor and have a good time. That is a good time movie. You're going to laugh.
Carmen Lezeth:That's criminal.
Maurio Dawson:Della Reese.
Alma Dawson:I saw like a Twitter. You watched that crap.
Maurio Dawson:As my daughter says, that's crazy work. You haven't seen that, that's crazy work. No, that's crazy work. You haven't seen that that's crazy work. No, it's like, it's one of the. It's considered a classic for sure. Like when you see it, when you hear us say pinky toe, you gonna know right away, because it's a classic line, everybody knows it.
Carmen Lezeth:Okay, I need to know what's going on with you two. What happened before you came on? There's something. How about?
Rick Costa:sex. Oh my, I also saw Paradise.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Did you like?
Alma Dawson:it, loved it, loved it.
Rick Costa:Two snaps around the world.
Maurio Dawson:I just took Cynthia out. She's done.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh Lord, oh my Lord.
Alma Dawson:I live with her.
Rick Costa:I never saw Cynthia laugh so hard.
Carmen Lezeth:What is happening? I'm not sure I'm going to be able to air this on Sunday. You started it. I started it. What did I do?
Maurio Dawson:You said what's going on over there? Y'all spicing and all of this stuff.
Carmen Lezeth:Like I said, I don't even know where we're going now. It's just going to be one of them shows. We're talking about regrets. I guess we're not talking about regrets we had this show today. I'm regretting Whoa.
Maurio Dawson:I was trying to have a topic show, but I think I'm done. I don't know, you've got to laugh, man, you've got to laugh, you gotta laugh.
Carmen Lezeth:Seriously, what's going on with you guys today? It's great, but what's happening? What did you guys do?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :He already told you it's third Is that it?
Maurio Dawson:Yeah, just the afterglow of love.
Carmen Lezeth:The afterglow. Oh Lord have mercy, I have to live with you.
Alma Dawson:I have to live with you. Oh my God.
Maurio Dawson:No, we're just having a good day. That's all. Oh, my God, you asked.
Carmen Lezeth:So who did you wrong that you had to post that on your story?
Maurio Dawson:Oh, Not who but like?
Carmen Lezeth:what was the circumstance?
Maurio Dawson:well, okay, I have certain people in my life who will show up when it's convenient for them, but then when you look for reciprocation and and or a need from a friend, and then they they're not present from you for you like where you at so you, you, you, you cut people out or you give them space, but you don't cut them out completely, because you give them some grace or whatever well, no, I start.
Maurio Dawson:I start by having real conversations. I'm a, I'm a direct person. I say what I mean, I mean what I, and with my friends, it's strike no chaser. You ask me and I always ask my friends are you sure you want me to give my opinion, or do you want me to be an active listener? What do you want? And then they'll say, no, mariel, I want you to tell me the truth. Okay, are you sure? Okay, cool, and I'll just rapid fire it off and they're like, they're shook, and so, okay, well, but that's the truth. And so it's not my truth, it's the truth, and they'll realize oh, you know what? You're absolutely right. But then, once they get their healing, and then I need a friend, they're nowhere to be found, and then that just, it's not you ever ask them why?
Carmen Lezeth:I'm just curious.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah, we also know that sometimes people are going through things and I give people grace for that. But then there are some people who are just selfish and narcissistic.
Carmen Lezeth:That's a fact. That's a fact, that's true. And then. It's just simple as that. The reason I ask is because I just you know, I this is one of the things alden and I were talking about was I just turned around and said I have cut people out and they're upset or confused as to why I cut them out?
Carmen Lezeth:and I said I first of all, I don't have the time. One of the things is I don't have the time to explain to you how to behave in our friendship, because we're 20, 30, 40 years on now. You haven't figured me out yet. Like that pissed you off about me and then you thought it was better to go talk to somebody else about it than to come to me and you thought I wasn't gonna find out about it. What?
Carmen Lezeth:are we in high school no I was like no, here's the thing I will not do, and I use the big word for myself. Even alden was like oh. I was like I'm not having performative friendships anymore. I don't need them I don't owe nobody anything. You know what I mean like I don't owe you nothing just because 35 years ago you let me sleep on your couch once you know've already been appreciative.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm done Enough already. So I'm done with the performative kind of friendships. I'm sorry that you're annoyed at me, frustrated or whatever, but I think people make up in their head who they think you are and then they expect you to behave that way all the time. You know what I'm saying. So I was just having the same conversation. That's why I was curious, like it's one of those things where friendships have to be, not a two-way street, because it's not always the same time, right, no it?
Maurio Dawson:does have to be reciprocal in the fact that there's going to be times where I'm going to show up for you and I'm going to be a hundred percent there for you, but you're going to have to show up for me at some point. Because if you're not showing up for me, even at 50% of the way that I showed up for you, then we really don't have a relationship, and it was definitely-.
Carmen Lezeth:But, mario, here's the problem. So I'm going to do what they say to what they said to me. Mario, you don't ever need me, you don't ever need me, you're on your own, you're so strong. No, that's what. No, no, that's what I'm saying, that's what that would be my question.
Maurio Dawson:Who said that? Who told you that?
Carmen Lezeth:well, my whole thing was I don't. So I, I didn't say, I didn't say that way. I said that is a belief system you've made up in your head.
Maurio Dawson:Boom. But see, I straight asked the question like who told you that? Did I say that to you? Did those words come out of my mouth? Because you're assuming and you know what they say about assumptions. You understand what I'm saying, so therefore don't put words in my mouth. But you saw that I was struggling, you saw that I was having a crisis. You know what was going on in my life, in my personal life, as my friend, because I said you know what I'm going through this.
Carmen Lezeth:Oh, I'm sorry, that's all you got like well, no, if somebody tells me that they need something, I get it, but I'm also not a mind reader, right, right, you know what. Here's the thing too, though this is an interesting conversation. Here's the thing too. Why is it? I'm the only person you come to when you need something like, right, like there are 15 other people, you can go. What, wait, wait, what, what?
Alma Dawson:well, because we're kind of we're kind of mirroring, like what your situation is, kind of mirroring a situation in our lives yeah well, a couple of a couple of situations, you know, and we're kind of handling it differently. I got you, you so, yeah, so, when everything that you're saying it's like conversations that we literally were having last night.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah.
Alma Dawson:Literally.
Maurio Dawson:Like just you know, private conversation where you're like you know what I'm tired of X, y and Z, you know.
Alma Dawson:Only reaching out to them. Yeah, only reaching out to you know all the negative. I'm like. Well, it's like they're treating us like a garbage, can they're coming and putting all the bad stuff?
Maurio Dawson:You're dumping on me, but you're not pouring into me. You understand what I'm saying. I understand. I'm not your trash can. I'm not just going to keep taking all your garbage in, but you're not pouring into me.
Alma Dawson:Not sharing anything positive, not sharing good, only bringing the negatives.
Carmen Lezeth:I told somebody that day they need to go get therapy. I'm not a therapist.
Alma Dawson:That's the next step. That's going to be the next step. We're trying to do it in a kind way.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I'm more bitchy as I get older, which is, but we're trying to do it in a kind way. Yeah, do it in a kind way.
Alma Dawson:I'm more bitchy as I get older, which is hard to believe. Well, that's, I know, right.
Carmen Lezeth:I just really I think as you get older it gets easier to let go of people, yes, and not to keep trying to get back to regret. It's easier to let go of people and not to keep trying to get back to regret. But I do regret that I didn't go with my gut instincts when I was younger and realize that you don't have to have a whole bunch of people around you, especially if all they're spewing is toxicity. Like I wish I knew that when I was younger and could have made some bigger, smarter decisions to let go of people much quicker.
Carmen Lezeth:But it is kind of that thing where you're just kind of like you're just exhausted by the same. It's the sameness and it's like what you're saying. People keep dumping negativity and toxicity in you and then you're supposed to just take it or help them or fix it. And I'm like bitch, I'm tired, I got my own stuff and you're not helping me in any way, shape or form. You're not doing nothing to make my day smile or make my day better. You're not even asking me how are you that part?
Alma Dawson:And see for me, even I don't have to have a long conversation with you, I don't need a lot, but just check on me to say, hey, we haven't talked in a few days or in a couple of weeks. You doing, okay, everyone, all right, that's all I need Just to feel like, oh okay, someone's thinking about me, you know, because sometimes that's just what people need. They just need to know that someone's thinking about them. Somebody cares, you know, but you know some people can't even do that for you. So it's kind of like okay, well, you are on mute, I'm on mute too, and I'm really like done and people don't understand if I'm done, I'm done, yeah, I'm good.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, it's like a light switch. I'm just it's not even something I'm trying to do, it just happens. It's so interesting because you use the same verbiage and I know what you mean. But they said to me I need you to check on me on a regular basis, because I need to know that I'm not alone. And I was like, okay, here's the thing you have a husband and you have family. Why is it my responsibility to check on you on a regular basis? And it was kind of this thing where it was like I understood what she was saying, but it was also putting a lot of pressure on me, like so if I don't email you or text you or call you, then you're upset because I haven't reached out and text you and call you. But you could just as easily motherfucking pick up the goddamn stupid ass phone and do the same shit.
Alma Dawson:That part and that's how I feel about it too. Phones work both ways.
Alma Dawson:I've had the same phone number for over 20 years. So you, I've had the same phone number for over 20 years. So you know, now, now, if I feel like, oh, I, someone comes into my thought, you know, to my brain, my thought bubble, I'm like, well, you know what? Let me shoot off a quick text. Hey, thought about you today, hope you're doing well, send, and that's it. I send the message and that's it. I'm not expecting a message back, I'm not expecting anything. But you know, it was on my heart to reach out to that person. So I did not expecting anything back. But you know, and that does happen from time to time and I'll be like you know what I thought about so-and-so today. So I sent them a, a message.
Carmen Lezeth:70% of the time they won't respond back see, okay, okay, I'm gonna disagree with you then, so this is what we're gonna. Anybody sends me a message, I respond right away. I just do it.
Alma Dawson:I do it, but like I said, the best is something about them. You understand what I'm saying, not about me. You know what I'm saying, but I don't want to be like, oh, I thought about them. Let's say they fall over dead. You know, three days later, and I'm oh, I thought about them. Let's say they fall over dead. You know, three days later, and I'm like, oh, I thought about them and I didn't reach out.
Maurio Dawson:I mean, Would this happen?
Alma Dawson:But you know so that's what I'm saying.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm a little bit different. If I send you a message, you can do a fucking thumbs up in your text message, something to let me know you got it If not. I'm very different. No, if I've gone out of my way and sent you a quick message, you can just thumbs up or wave something, Cause if not, then I get worried. But it's so funny, Like I haven't talked to him in a long time. We haven't talked cause he's been traveling or whatever. And so when he just called, I picked up and we were talking and I said, oh my God, it's almost an hour. And he's like what are you talking about? We've always talked for like three hours. I'm like dude, we have never spoken this long. But it's so funny because you just get into the whole conversation, whatever. And it's just. I'm okay having the low moments where we don't talk for whatever reason. You're in another country, I'm really busy, whatever. But real friendship can distinguish that yes, between you just not being there for me yes, because I know for a fact.
Carmen Lezeth:If I text alden, I knew he was in switzerland and I text him and said I needed to talk. That motherfucker would have been on the damn phone yeah, exactly I love the ones.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I love the ones when you know a person dies and all these people show up and they're like, oh my god, they were such a wonderful person. It's like really, where were you all these years? You never called, you never looked for them, you never asked about their family. Like no, don't come to my fucking funeral if you haven't called me. Ask about my family when I'm gone. Don't ask about my family afterwards because you didn't care when I was here.
Alma Dawson:I've given Marissa permission to do and she knows. You'll know who's been in our lives and you'll know who hasn't. You don't have to. You can call specific people and tell them when my Don't come You're not welcome. I told her she can do it and. I told her. I will give you a list of the people who I want to make remarks and you're going to pre-record them and it's going to be played at the service. Nobody's going to get a chance to get up to the mic and say, oh, I remember no.
Carmen Lezeth:She can control, even where she go.
Alma Dawson:I love that I can't stand that.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, my cousin was going to say something, Rick. You were going to say something.
Rick Costa:Sorry, I was going to just put a little twist on it. I have a lot of patience, maybe more than almost anybody I know. I mean, look at my situation I'm living in. But everybody got a tolerance of what they can take and I can't stand when people think they can keep abusing me and I'll forgive because I'm a Christian and know 70 times 7 and, yeah, I will try my best. But don't turn around and get mad at me when you have abused me and mistreated me and try to make me be the villain when I say I'm done with you. You did this, not me. Oh, I hate that.
Alma Dawson:Oh, I don't have a problem telling people, I don't mind being the villain in your story that part, that part I never have a problem at all yeah, not, and I know I am no, I'm a villain in a lot of people's story and I'm happy to wear that crown I think also people um your, the, your style, the way in which you, you're just like Alden in that.
Carmen Lezeth:I don't know why, it's because I just got off the phone with him. That's why we had a really great conversation.
Rick Costa:Shout out to Alden, Hi Alden.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Hi Alden.
Carmen Lezeth:And happy early birthday. His birthday is in April. Oh, happy birthday. Yeah, he'll be in Spain on his birthday. I still have to text him. But his stuff, we were talking about this. He doesn't like confrontation, which you don't either, whereas me and Mario, and I believe, alma too, we okay with confrontation.
Carmen Lezeth:We okay with it and it's not one is better than the other, it's just different styles. You know what I mean. But the reason why some people turn around and do that to you and do that to Alden is because they actually think that they can make you feel bad for the circumstance that they did you know what I mean that they created, whereas what they don't realize is that especially because, as I know you, you don't forget that shit, you may be kind about it, whereas I might just say the state, you know the straight up truth, you don't forget that shit, you may be kind about it, whereas I might just say the state, you know the straight up truth, you don't forget it and you do handle it. Just differently.
Rick Costa:You know what I mean there's a guy today on my um. There's a facebook group I have and this one guy. Every time he pops in to say something, he's asking for money. I'm like brah. He's like I'll send you the receipt. Our electricity got shut off, my wife got brought to the hospital. I ain't got enough gas to get to the job. I'm gonna get fired. Then I'm gonna do that and I'm like, okay, sad story, we all have one. I was like, but can you? People are telling me they're sick of hearing you asking for money, so I'm giving you a chance, please stop doing it. And he did it again today. And I was like, okay, that's it Banned. And all these messages. Thank you Rick. Thank you Rick. I was supposed to get him. Thank you, rick. Affecting everybody that much, but yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, because it's hard to keep hearing people begging for money the same person, though.
Maurio Dawson:Yeah.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, I mean.
Rick Costa:And the craziest thing is he has never come on any of our broadcasts mine or the other two people. I've never even seen him. Why are you coming here asking for money?
Carmen Lezeth:Even if he did. I mean, you and I both know of a similar situation where, you know I don't, this whole joke about me being bougie and having money has really bad ramifications, because people then keep asking me for money and they keep going to other people to ask me for money and so I had to turn around and cut people out Cause I'm like I don't. First of all, even if I did, I wouldn't give it to you because I ain't a fucking bank. And secondly, why are you asking me?
Maurio Dawson:No, it's a okay. All the listeners and all the viewers. Carmen is not a bank. She is truly. She's not bougie, she's bougie-toe.
Carmen Lezeth:Bougie-toe.
Maurio Dawson:She is not bougie. Okay, there is a big damn difference. Get out of her pocket. People in the back hear that.
Rick Costa:Just making sure, yes.
Maurio Dawson:All the people in the balcony, in the mezzanine, in the loge, all up in the corner and rose easy look.
Carmen Lezeth:I've asked people for money when I got in trouble, when I had, especially during, uh, when the economy tanked back in 2000 what was it? 2008-9? Um, and I lost my home, like so many people did, and I couldn't get work. After that. It was really hard. I asked people for money. Now, I didn't do it like rent. I asked my family, my brothers from another, mother's you know what I mean. And here's the thing I didn't have to ask them. That's what I'm saying. I didn't even have to ask. They knew and they were like we're going to send you this, we got things, we're going to hook you up.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Yeah, what you need.
Maurio Dawson:We see you struggling, that's family, and that's friends who show up for you, who are supposed to do it the right way. I'm like me, who had someone just calling me on the rando asking me for money and wait, but wait, wait. Didn't ask me for money once. Asked me for money four times, wait. Did you give it to them the first time? No, I said no. I said oh no. I said my daughter's in school, which she was. I said she's in college. I said we're trying to wrap up school tuition, all this stuff, even though she was on scholarship. That's not the point. We still had bills we had to take care of. I said no, I don't have it. Then they went down by $50 the next month. Can I have this much? I don't have it. Then it went down by another $50. The next month I don't have it. I tell you what I say send me your Venmo or your Zelle. I said when I have it I'll send it to you which you've never gotten Right they're still waiting on it.
Carmen Lezeth:I've always said if I won the lottery, if I came into a lot of money, the first rule is anybody who asks me for money would not get any.
Maurio Dawson:I'm asking you now.
Alma Dawson:I can't stand them, I can't.
Maurio Dawson:That way, I have a prerequisite.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I'm asking now You're breaking this half a day. So, mario and Elma, has anyone asked either one of you for money? And if you didn't have it, did they ask your spouse?
Maurio Dawson:No, they know better.
Alma Dawson:Yeah, anybody who knows us knows that we are a united front.
Maurio Dawson:And we've told each other stuff like that.
Carmen Lezeth:Except with me and Mario.
Rick Costa:That's like the banana, the chocolate the bullshit, Mario look. I always tell people, if you tell some, if somebody is married and you told one, you've already told them.
Carmen Lezeth:I know, cynthia, that's happened with you in one I know that's happened with you at one.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :That's crazy.
Alma Dawson:But for people to think that you you could do that to one and not think that you're going to tell your spouse or ask your spouse, but I mean, and not think that you're going to tell your spouse or ask your spouse, but I mean. I think that there's people who think like that's how you operate, but the thing is that if you've ever truly had a healthy relationship, you understand that it's a partnership.
Carmen Lezeth:I've had the opposite problem happen. So I remember somebody offered to help me and it was here's the thing this person has tons of money. Well, you know, compared to us they're comfortable, comfortable.
Carmen Lezeth:And I forget why. I think it was during the same time period and I remember being like you know what, if you could send me like $1,200, that would help me just for rent for the next two months or something. I was like and I could piece it together whatever. And he was like I got you, don't worry, I'll do it. Here is the worst thing you could ever do. So I'm waiting for the money to come into my account or to be mailed. Three weeks weeks later, I have to reach out and be like right, don't offer people fucking money or don't offer someone desperate and say I can help you.
Carmen Lezeth:And I had to reach back out to him. This is why we don't talk, no more. I swear to God. This is why we don't talk, Because it was so disrespectful. And then he said the spouse thing. He's like you. You know what I have to talk to my wife and I was like, first of all, 1200.
Carmen Lezeth:You know what I could see. First of all, I would never ask anybody for 20 grand or something like that, but 1200 of this person is like you asking me for five bucks and me being like mario I got you. I'll send you the five dollars right now.
Carmen Lezeth:I'm venmo, right like I'm not gonna make you wait three weeks and then you're gonna. You said you won'll send you the $5 right now. I'm not going to make you wait three weeks. And then you said you won't send me the $5. To this day, it is one of the reasons why I have no respect for that person, because it was such a loser-esque kind of excuse and you don't do that.
Carmen Lezeth:First of all, I know it's hard for people to ask for money. See, this is the other thing. I know what it's like to not have anything. I know what it's like to be desperate and to be in pain and to be suffering and to be alone and to needing whatever it is you think you need in that moment. I got you and it's hard to ask for money. I've only asked for money, like myself, that person and like one other time when I was a teenager. Any other time, people who have had money offered it to me because they knew I was in trouble. You know what I mean. I know what it's like. So it's even harder for me to tell people no, because I'm not a bank or I ain't got that.
Carmen Lezeth:Somebody asked me one time could you let I swear to you ask me, can you lend me $100,000, I was like what I swear to you? This is like four years. Four years ago they were like do you have? Could you, could you help us out, us family us out? We're looking for $100,000 if you give. They had a whole plan and we're looking for a hundred thousand dollars if you give it. They had a whole plan and we could pay it back in installments.
Carmen Lezeth:And I was like, did you say, what did you, what did you say or do that would give them the idea or the familiarity I'll tell you what it is ask you that this is why I don't tell people who I work for, but I think people always assume because I work for rich people that I somehow will have access to money or access to something and and I think that's what it is it's like, and I I stopped talking to that person too clearly, cause I'm like you clearly don't know anything about who I am.
Maurio Dawson:No, clearly you fell and hurt yourself. You fell really hard.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :On their head.
Rick Costa:Oscar winning movie. Did you see me in Right Right, right, right, right, right, right, right?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :Right, right, right, right, right Right.
Carmen Lezeth:Right, look it. I think money is really hard and I honestly I think Cynthia can vouch for this I don't give a fuck about money. When I have it, I give it away. When I don't have it, I don't have it, and I do the best I can. And whatever, I think money is an unfortunate thing that humans have to deal with and if it wasn't cash money, it would be bartering, it'd be all the same shit. You know what I mean, because that's how we function in society, but I think it's a really terrible thing because I think it hurts more than it helps. You know what I mean. Like as far as relationships go, like you have to know who your friends are when you don't got money, because when you do have money, all of a sudden everybody's going to be your friend.
Maurio Dawson:Exactly, oh yeah.
Alma Dawson:Oh yeah, I think one of the things, one of the one of the things also that Mario and I always say if we have it and we, we give it. I always say if we have it and we, we give it, we just give it freely. Oh yeah, we don't expect to get it back. You know, if we do, then it's a blessing we get it back, but if not, then it's not something that we're like. Oh, they owe us.
Carmen Lezeth:Well, Cynthia, I'm gonna embarrass you right now. Cynthia lent me I forget how many thousand. What was that about? See, everyone thinks I'm bougie and I'm telling you all the times I needed money.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I forget how many thousand dollars you lent me, I think it was two or three it was like two or three, but I paid you back.
Carmen Lezeth:Right, Because that's the other part of this. You want to be somebody who honors your word. You're not going to borrow money right, so you're not the person. I'm sorry, did I just embarrass you? No, no, no. Yeah, I'm not the bougie one people.
Maurio Dawson:Okay, what you're saying is Lindsay is the bougie, she's undercover bougie.
Carmen Lezeth:Undercover bougie over there. Okay, no, no, I forget. I think it was during the same time period, was it?
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I don't know.
Carmen Lezeth:I think it was right around COVID.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :It was COVID.
Carmen Lezeth:It was during COVID and you sent me a few thousand dollars or whatever, and I think within the year I paid you right back or whatever. And that's what you have to do, Like if you're going to ask for money, then you actually should pay it back.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :And you were funny about it because you're like I could pay you back this day and I'm like it's fine. I said, when you have it, pay it back.
Maurio Dawson:There's a difference between saying can I borrow?
Carmen Lezeth:and can I have? Do people say can I have to you yes, I've had people say can I have?
Maurio Dawson:If I have it, I'll say sure you can have it, because that way I go into it, with the expectation of not getting it back. Can I have it? I'll say sure you can have it, because, see, that way I go into it with the expectation of not getting it back.
Carmen Lezeth:Can I have $5,000 more? I'm asking you now, before you get that money.
Maurio Dawson:When I get it. That's what I'm saying I got you, friend, when I get it, I got you. What's your Venmo, what's your cash? Right, I already got your Venmo. See, that's the good thing, I got you It'll just pop up when I got it, you get it.
Carmen Lezeth:Money is a difficult thing.
Maurio Dawson:When we were really struggling because I was super, super sick. But then those were those people who were just showing up for us to say don't give it back to us, this is a gift. You guys got Marissa. You guys got to take care of each other. Or they would just show up with some groceries, or they would show up with some food, some dinner, or they show up at the hospital with meals for Alma and Marissa. Or we have two of our dearest friends say, hey, let me go come get Marissa so we can give you guys a break, or give an Alma a break and take her to the movies, or take her to the park or get her out of that there are different ways you can pay back.
Carmen Lezeth:You don't have to.
Maurio Dawson:it doesn't have to be money, but when you just show up and be present and just say I got you, that's all somebody needs to hear. Those are the type of friends you want in your corner. So these people who I have now, who are on some bullshit you missed me with that bullshit. So I see you over there, you know, because then you're not, are you really a friend?
Carmen Lezeth:So do you regret having them as friends, or has it just grown into this?
Maurio Dawson:No, not at all, because, as the saying goes, some people come into your life for a reason or a lifetime. No, that was not Tyler Perry, no.
Alma Dawson:Tyler Perry, and that's so funny because I just saw that Tyler Perry compared the friendships like a tree Right, the tree has leaves.
Maurio Dawson:Oh, right, right right, some people have roots.
Alma Dawson:They're green, you know, and they're nice and they provide shade, but then a strong wind blows and they fly off because they can't get rid, or they turn brown and they fall and they die and they're gone. Some are like branches. Some branches are sturdy, but if you get too far out there then they break, he's like, and then you have friends who are roots, the friends who are there and hold you down.
Carmen Lezeth:The roots are the people who have the money no. I'm just kidding. Those are the real friends, though.
Maurio Dawson:We love you real friends. We love you rich friends.
Carmen Lezeth:Yeah, yeah, I mean, I think that's. You're absolutely right, there is, but then that's the difference in our friendships and that's a whole other conversation. That's it.
Maurio Dawson:The cousin I told you about. We went to his funeral and he told everybody don't speak at my funeral. He said because you had nothing to say to me, if you, didn't give me my flowers when I was here. Don't give them to me now. He sent that message through the pastor.
Alma Dawson:He said so we will have no remarks here.
Maurio Dawson:There will be no remarks.
Alma Dawson:There were none.
Maurio Dawson:There were none.
Alma Dawson:And the family had an opportunity to do it. They had like a family small service the day before.
Maurio Dawson:And he also. They made a running joke about him and the fact that he made everyone sign a contract Because he was rolling in dough, but he made everybody sign.
Alma Dawson:Oh that.
Maurio Dawson:And he said okay, I'm going to sign a sign here that I gave it to you, okay, and he just he said, not that I'm asking you to give it back to me in time soon, he said, but this is business, family or not? His son-in-law, his kids his wife.
Alma Dawson:Everybody went up there talking about it. Everybody talked about it. I didn't know he was giving the money.
Maurio Dawson:Oh, I knew he had money like that.
Carmen Lezeth:That's hilarious when I die. I don't even want all that, I just want a party. I don't even want everyone to get together, I just want everyone to celebrate my life in their own way. You know my bench.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :I'm going to Disneyland. We're going to cremate you, carmen. We're going to cremate you, right, we're going to put a little bit at your spot at your bed.
Alma Dawson:No, no no, how about a little piece of every Disneyland, right? No, you're not allowed, you're not.
Rick Costa:How about a little piece of every Disneyland?
Carmen Lezeth:Right? No, I will be sad and miserable and I will haunt you.
Maurio Dawson:We took a haunted mansion. That would be even better.
Carmen Lezeth:You all think I'm going to die before you. That's adorable, very cute, thank you. No, I don't want any. I don't want people to get together, whatever, but like I want everyone to just send out an email or text.
Alma Dawson:No, I love it when you see those stories and say my, you know when I die. I want my kids to send out a text from my phone saying let me out of here, let me out of here. I love that, or why are you here? I haven't seen you in 10 years.
Maurio Dawson:They have to come from that person's phone.
Carmen Lezeth:That is so funny I should do that.
Alma Dawson:I think I want you to do that. She's like Mom, I'm like, I think I do, I think I do too. Send it out to all my contacts.
Carmen Lezeth:That'd be so mean and funny. We're past.
Alma Dawson:We're going to have to close this up, but any last remarks on regret or joy, of money or friendships, I say don't live in regrets, you know, enjoy, enjoy your life, enjoy your present, leave yesterday in your rearview mirror.
Rick Costa:there you go yeah, yeah there's a reason why I gotta put our eyes in the front boom, oh, okay oh, just enjoy every day.
Cynthia Ruiz Lopez :You never know when it's going to be your last.
Rick Costa:Rest in peace, val yeah, rest in peace.
Carmen Lezeth:Val Kilmer. Thank you everyone, remember at the end of the day it really is all about the joy. Bye everyone. Thanks for stopping by. All About the Joy. Be better and stay beautiful folks. Have a sweet day.